(Closed) Best age for a flower girl?

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: What is the ideal age for a flower girl?
    Younger than 2 : (0 votes)
    2-3 : (6 votes)
    13 %
    4-6 : (30 votes)
    64 %
    7-8 : (9 votes)
    19 %
    9-10 : (1 votes)
    2 %
    11-12 : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Older than 12 : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    240 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I firmly believe you can have a flower girl of any age. I would be more concerned about the flower girl being “too young” than “too old”.

    Post # 4
    Member
    144 posts
    Blushing bee

    My flower girl just turned two at the end of March…she may be a little young to walk down the aisle but I am not worried.  She is my first niece and I really wanted her to be a part of the big day.  My mom, sister (the flower girl’s mom) and I all decided to see what mood she is in the day of to decide how we are going to walk her down.  She has been practicing for the “princess party” as my sister tells her and she is so excited about wearing her “princess dress” and she is so excited that I am going to wear a “princess dress” too.  I think she will do great, she is a big ham and loves anything girly.  If not, my brother (her uncle) will help her down the aisle. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    2634 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t think there is a “perfect” age.

    While a very young Flower Girl will probably be “oohhh”‘ed and “aahhh”ed more, an older girl will (hopefully) be able to follow direction better.

    Whatever works for you – you know?

    Post # 6
    Member
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I read something about them being old enough not to melt down and do their job, and be cute, so 3, and oldest age 8…

    …but I’m having my sweet cousin who is turning 9 one month before the ceremony She is so sweet and innocent. Some 9 years olds can act like preteen’s. My cousin will be perfect.

    I think 8 is perfect. It all depends highly on maturity at that age I think.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    Our daughter is going to be our flower girl and she will be almost three by the time of our wedding. I’m worried because she does tend to be on the temperamental/ tantrum throwing side BUT that being said she is our daughter and I feel like it would be horrible to not let her participate just because she’s going through a long bout of the terrible two’s! I just hope she straightens up a little by then :/

    Post # 8
    Member
    306 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think 7-8 is perfect, as they’re controllable.  We are breaking my ideals and having two flowergirls, one who will be days-shy of 10 and one who will have just turned two.  FI’s two nieces and I really couldn’t decide. I think they’ll be perfect – it’s all about who fits YOU GUYS.

    Post # 9
    Member
    142 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I can’t say that there is a perfect age and I have seen many weddings with flower girls from 3yrs-7yrs old. Most of the time the young they are the more likely they are to freak out when the real ceremony comes. My daughter has been the stand in for many other flower girls that froze up before making it to the alter lol. My daughter is now 9 and she will be my flower girl.

    Post # 10
    Member
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    4-8 is the best range. They’re young enough that they still look cute and actually want to do the job and are old enough that they won’t throw a tantrum and can walk by themselves and carry whatever it is they have.

    Post # 11
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    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I think that’s a perfectly fine age for a flower girl. Our flower girl was 6 and I was glad that I didn’t have to worry about whether she would walk down the aisle or anything. She was also old enough to really understand what was going on and to be really excited about it. I loved when she would call because she wanted to talk about the wedding, and the day we went to get her dress she was over the moon. 

    Post # 12
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee

    Just a funny story about a flower girl being to young to do the job… I had just turned three when my dad and step mom got married. Someone did something to piss me off, can’t remember who or why, but man someone really upset me. I was a pretty vindictive child, let me tell ya, and when it was time to walk down the isle I dumped all the rose petals at the front of the isle, dropped the basket, crossed my arms and stomped down the isle with a really pissed off look on my face. The pictures are priceless.

    This is what scares me about having my daughter in the wedding… we are way to much alike for our own good!

    Post # 13
    Member
    125 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @jamiemichelle- for one day I think you might have to find lots of bribes! 🙂 Good luck. Funny story!

    Post # 14
    Member
    104 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    My flower girl is my daughter and shes 11 😉 They can be any age you want

    Post # 15
    Member
    13 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @clody:  Brilliant.  I have desperately wanted my first (and only) niece to be part of my wedding, but since she will only be a couple months over 2 I was a bit nervous.  But having my brother in law walk down the aisle with her if she is feeling a bit.. difficult, is absolutely brilliant.  So glad I read that.

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