Post # 1
If you’re CBC, where do you live? Do you want to stay there? If you have kids, where would you live or want to live if you didn’t have them?
I live in a pretty big city but there are still a lot of families. I live in a suburb on the edge of the city though so I know my experience is pretty skewed. I’m a planner and very inexperienced traveler so I have no idea where to move to in a year when I graduate! My SO is up for anything and though we’ll likely follow job opportunities, I wanted to have some bees weigh in!
Google has come up with Chicago, Seattle, San Fran, and Manhattan. SO vetoed Seattle due to rain and though I haven’t been to San Fran yet (going next year!), I don’t think it’s somewhere I’d want to live.
Gimme some options bees! =)
ETA: I had no idea where to put this so mods, feel free to move it!
Also, it doesn’t have to be in the US!
Post # 3
I imagine you’ll get roughly the same mix in any city unless you start looking for a more youthful one (which is not the same as CBC city). Boston for example is a “young” city with a lot of college students, grad students and young professionals. Or look for a more urban city and less at cities with suburbia sprawl.
Post # 4
I don’t know, but I’ve been babysitting for my sister in law for the past couple days and I want to off myself. The kid is a sweetheart, but the constant chatter and wanting to play is making me insane. Good thing I knew I am CBC because I would go insane if I had one of my own.
Post # 5
I hope I have the same experience! My niece just told us she’s pregnant & I was completely in shock. I hope when I’m around the baby I think “omg I’m so glad we’re not having kids!” lol My cousins all have babies and I hate watching them take over EVERYTHING. & they’re good kids!
I didn’t know that about Boston! you’re right, there is a difference in young and CBC. I guess while we’re still young, looking for a “young” city might not be a bad idea
Post # 6
Now I really know I’m CBC (not that I ever doubted it), because she’s a really great, smart, funny kid and she is making me insane. I have a headache, and she keeps touching me with her sticky hands. She’s 3 1/2, btw. She wants to blow bubbles outside, have me read trillions of books, go outside and look for rocks, play with the dollhouse, paint rocks, make up songs, play tag, and on and on. I am bored to tears. I told her I have to work on the computer, which is how I escaped to vent. If her mother was here, she’d be asleep, but her mom drags out every little errand to get more time away.
Post # 7
@soontobemrsm11: What makes you think SF isn’t a place you’d like to live? That might help narrow things down.
Post # 8
I looked at a few pictures of what I assume were supposed to be awesome views from the balcony of some houses that are for rent there and I realized overlooking the city that it’s ALL cement. Hardly any trees, barely any green at all in the pictures I saw. I’m right in the middle of being a country girl & a city girl. I love being right outside of a city because I have the best of both worlds (theoretically…right now I’m in an apt so no back yard)
I think I want SOME green. I love the view of mountains but I love how much there is to do in a city. I would consider moving to NYC (my SO wants to really badly) if we could afford it but upstate new york appeals equally to me as well. Though I’ve never been in snow so my SO thinks after 1 hard winter, I’d be ready to move back to the south lol
Post # 9
If too much cement bothers you, NYC is not the place for you. 🙂 They don’t call it “concrete jungle” for nothing. When you say Upstate NY, do you mean suburbs like Westchester or out in the sticks? I personally like Upstate NY (my SO’s parents live there), but it can be too rural for some.
If you do like being close to the city, then northern NJ could also be a good spot for you – Hoboken is climbing up to Manhattan prices and super congested, but places like Weehawken, West New York, Edgewater, Guttenberg give you good bang for your buck and are only a 10-20 minute bus ride from Manhattan.
ETA: The SO and I are CBC at the moment, but will probably have kids after marriage. However, we do NOT under any circumstances want to have kids in the NYC/NJ area (where we are living now). The public schools are a joke, private schools are prohibitively expensive on top of the high cost of living. If we didn’t want to have kids – another story. Once I am done with grad school, we are eyeing the Dallas, TX area to start up our real lives.
Post # 10
I’m not sure which I mean! lol I’ve only ever been to NYC and only once. I can’t see living there unless I could get out into the country a bit every now and then. What’s in Westchester? Is it a city itself? I’ve never been to NJ but that sounds really nice and my SO would LOVE being 20 mins from NYC. Are those cities a little less cement-y? lol
I’m pretty sure we’re going to stay CBC but every now and then I question it. I know I don’t want kids but I think my body is trying to convince me otherwise lol
Post # 11
Not sure what would constitute a good city for CBC couples, and I’m CBC! I always figured the point was that instead of choosing based on school districts and where you can afford a gazillion-bedroom house, we can choose based on individual things that have nothing to do with how many families with kids there are.
Currently we live in a suburban area that actually has tons of families with kids. We picked it because we wanted good weather (my SO is picky about that too), a backyard (what’s the point of good weather if you don’t go outside?), and lots of companies in my job industry. I’m sure it wouldn’t make an official list for CBC couples, but if we went by lists of what’s best for “demographically similar individuals”, we’d also have frickin’ kids, wouldn’t we? 😉
So, on a broad regional level, the whole fun is indulging your personal preferences. Housing prices, weather, state government, prominent job industries, proximity to art museums or music venues, whatever matters to you. Then once you’ve narrowed it down to one area, look for the lousy school districts because you can sometimes get a sweet place for hundreds of thousands of dollars less.
Post # 12
I live outside of DC, and there are pockets that are very CBC friendly. The swankier parts of any city, where the cost of living is higher, the apartments/houses/yards smaller, and less access to high quality schools, are all going to be more CBC. In DC, I find that the really high end areas (Georgetown, Adams Morgan, Rosslyn) are much more CBC friendly than some of the more spread out and “up and coming” areas like Eastern Market, south Arlington, and out west in the VA suburbs. It’s like you can’t go anywhere there without there being a gaggle of kids with their yuppie parents in tow.
Post # 13
I think you should focus on where you want to live rather than saying “is this a CBC friendly city??” Just as cities can be made child-friendly if parents want them to be, a city can also be CBC-friendly if you want it to be.
For a city that is awesome, but also has a lot of green, you might want to consider Philadelphia. I lived in West Philadelphia, and my apartment building (which was built in 1905 as a single family home and converted into 5 apartments) looked right out onto a huge sycamore. There are parks and green spaces all over the city if you live in the right area.
Here is a picture of my old street:
And here is Center City:
Post # 14
that’s pretty! I’ve never been to Philadelphia. I think that’s the biggest problem I have…I’ve never really been anywhere! I’ve made a list of some things to try to research and part of wanting a city is having interests that are easier to find in a city
That’s true about the school districts. I don’t know what consitutes a good CBC city either lol I know I’m surrounded by families where I am and most of the local events are geared towards kids (some are towards dogs which makes me happy!) and I want somewhere where local events aren’t all about fun for the kids. That’s basically all I know.
We’ve talked about visiting DC soon, maybe we’ll go check out those areas. I have learned that more expensive cities tend to have less families so hopefully I’ll be making good money in whatever job I get! That’s definitely part of what I mean…I’m the type that would like to move seats in a restaurant if I’m by a bunch of kids. I like them, don’t get me wrong, but unless I’m going somewhere that’s “duh, there will definitely be kids there” (Disney world…etc), I’d don’t want screaming kids ruining my evening.
Post # 15
I forgot to ask you if Philly is gay friendly? I’ve heard some random things about pennsylvania not being very progressive but I’ve never been there
Post # 16
No no no no no haha
San Francisco has an AMAZING amount of green space. And if you don’t want to live next to Golden Gate Park, the Presidio, etc etc there’s always the Berkeley hills, Oakland hills, Marin county, etc. All of which have more dogs than children several folds over. We go hiking at Lands End all the time! And the beaches are so beautiful! So much to do outdoors in the city.
I am not a huge fan of children, but I guess I don’t understand needing to be in a special city where children aren’t – can you elaborate? I’d love to learn more. So few people talk about it and i’m so curious!