- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
This was along time coming.
Back story that I found out later:
My best friend and bridesmaid was set to open her own bar with her boyfriend in July. She was called to a meeting with my mother and other bridesmaids in June, and they decided on when to have the shower and what each would be contributing.
They all agreed on a date that would work, and my best friend offered to bring the ice tea, lemonade, and a champaign punch. My mom did not take any money from any of my girls because she was concerned about price and spending for them.
Fast forward to August
I was thrown a bridal shower about a month ago. I caught on to when it would be held and what time. Prior to this, I had been to my friends bar twice to help out (it needed a lot of work.) She changed the date of her opening for the same day as my shower. She had asked me to come to her bar at 12 to help her set up. Since I found out my shower was at 1, I thought it was just a ploy to get me there.
I showed up in a cute dress and my hair pushed back in curls. She immeditely put me to work moving things around in the attic of the place (the attic was like 120 degrees.) I was sweating like you wouldn’t beleive and at this point, I thought I was definitly wrong about the date. One o’clock rolls around and she asks me to go to the store for lemonade and ice tea for the bar…hmmmm…
I return at 1:15 with the drinks, but not before my mom calls me to tell me I should be at my shower…
So, I return and tell her what my mom says. She said she was waiting until 1:20. We hop in her car..she is covered in paint from head to toe and wearing gym shorts and a tee shirt..paint is literally everywhere. She talks the whole way there about the bar and how much work it has been..nothing about my day or my shower..
Once we arrive she hands me my presents in the bags she purchased them in and said “sorry no time to wrap.” She asked me to open them first… she apologized for not having time to get me something on my registry…I opened them..and then she left…
She was suppose to bring champaign punch, but did not, and sent me to buy my own drinks…did not even give me money for the purchase… guests were all there at 12:45..to 1:20 with nothing to drink..she was suppose to drop off the drinks earlier that day.
She has not once called me since I have been engaged to ask me how the planning is going..
She did call me to ask me to pay for her dress back in June because she had no time to order it….She never paid me back or even brought it up again.
I have no pictures of my complete bridal party from my shower…
I invited everyone from the shower to her opening that night because I am sincerely proud of her and happy for her…We went that night and celebrated and congratulated her..
But deep down, I felt slighted…
I am hurt and sad over the whole situation…
Am I being stupid or are my feelings justified?