(Closed) Best friend declines to be Maid of honor. Now what?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having uneven sides. If Fiance and I were having a bridal party our sides would be uneven. We’re having a destination wedding and originally I was to have 2 bridesmaids and he would have 1-2 groomsmen, but most likely one. Well, now we’re not sure if his one groomsman can make it to the wedding (travel to our wedding is pretty costly) and I didn’t feel right having 2 girls stand by me and no one stand by him. So…we nixed the whole bridal party idea. That way we have no worries. It’ll just be him and I at the alter.

Anyways, I got off subject. hehe. I see no problem with you having 2 (or 4) girlies by you and Fiance having 3. I’d rather have the most important people standing with me than "fillers" to make the numbers even.

Post # 4
87 posts
Worker bee

If you have a sister or another very close relative, you might ask her. You could even ask your mom to be matron of honor.  Honestly, Maid/Matron of Honor is a big responsibility and it’s not something you should ask just anyone to do.  If there’s no one else you feel is close enough to you to be Maid/Matron of Honor, I would say don’t have one and don’t worry about the asymmetry–IMO weddings are about substance foremost, not style.  Not that style is unimportant!  Just not the most important thing.

Post # 5
90 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I personally don’t see anything wrong with having uneven sides.  My cousin had 6 bridesmaids and 12 groomsmen!!  They worked it out so that all of the groomsmen stood in the ceremony but only half sat at the head table during the reception…the other half were married and sat with their wives.

Your wedding should be about you and the people most important to you should have the job of standing at your sides.  If this means that you have uneven numbers, so be it!  Once you decide the number on each side, you can find creative ways to make it so that walking down the aisle, pictures, etc looked "balanced."

Post # 6
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I agree with what all the bees up there said too:)  Hooray for odd Numbers!!

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