(Closed) Best friend didn't get a present or card

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 46
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

You keep thinking of this after a year?  It doesn’t matter if you wouldn’t tell her.  What is troubling is that it’s still in your mind.  Gifts are not important, friendships are.

Post # 47
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Worker bee

RosaBride:  Depended on the wedding, but often dress, hair, shoes, accomidations, cost of bridal shower, cost of bachelorette party, breakfast/drinks the morning of the wedding….things add up quickly.  

My girlfriends all knew how much I love them.  I can’t imagine anyone of them being disapointed that I did not provide a gift.  

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

gorgeousgarnet:  I guess I’m just different then. I’d always give some sort of gift. Even if it’s something personal that doesnt cost a lot

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My hubby’s sister didn’t even send us a card and cancelled coming the week before… was I a bit miffed about it, yes? Am I fully over it? No, but that’s life!

FWIW I’ve kept all my cards!

Post # 50
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145 posts
Blushing bee

I agree with not saying anything about it to her. But I also agree that she was wrong and rude! Not expecting a gift from other guests is one thing but someone you’ve known for so long is pretty rude. I’d feel the same way :/

Post # 51
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I’d probably not say anything, but I can totally see why you’re upset about it. I don’t think you’re overreacting at all!

Post # 52
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329 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think I would say anything, but I totally understand. My maid of honor did not give us even a card. And we kept all  cards for sentimental reasons. Honestly a card wishing us a happy marriage and congratulating us on the milestone would’ve been nice … MOH did not do anything, she did not contribute to the bachelorette party, she did not contribute to the bridal shower, I did it all with my mom.  I gave my bridesmaids a Michael Kors wristlet, for appearances… 

Post # 53
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wow some commenters are so rude! You are entitled to feel a certain way and if that still bugs you, you are entitled to feel that way. Plus, you said that you wouldn’t say anything anyway, and it sounds like you just wanted to vent. That’s OK! That’s what we are here for. To help you get through a difficult time. I also am in a similar situation. The only person that didn’t even give us a congratulatory card (obv no gift either – not that i care about the money but i would never ever show up to a wedding without a card even) was a particular Bridesmaid or Best Man who was a headache from the start. I’m not surprised that she didn’t even give us a card. I have a thousand other reasons why this person is no longer in my life and the no card thing was just one more reason.  Now, on the flip side, if the person went above and beyond with being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, then I would just assume that she thought that she did so much already and that a card was not necessary. And I would agree at that point. Then I would let it go. But, not with my Bridesmaid or Best Man. She was a terrible friend.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Let this go. She was a bridesmaid even if you didn’t have all the events and stuff and bought their dres you did that because you chose to. In the end did was she there to support you on your big day? Yes. So why do you expect a gift from her? I would just be happy she was there and understand that after traveling she probably didn’t have much money. You should never epect gifts from anyone so it is rude of you to hold this grudge a year later. Get over it and treasure her friendship.

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

And I saved every bridal shower card and wedding card. And have re-read them, when I did my thank you’s. I may even read them on our wedding anniversary, when we eat our freezer cake. I’m traditional like that I guess. I did something creative with my cards because I like the keepsake aspect of it.

Post # 56
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Helper bee

Everybody, this thread was dead a month ago. OP hasn’t been back

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