(Closed) Best friend didn't invite me to come meet new baby.

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 76
Member
395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

As a best friend, she probably expected you to come rather than having to invite you.  I haven’t read all of the replies, but have you talked since then? She may be hurt that you didn’t come.

Post # 77
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901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

WOW.  I am appauled by the number of people who feel that it’s appropriate to just show up at the hospital to visit someone who has just given birth.  That is absolutely NOT ok!  Sure, I may not be in any condition to invite people… but if you’re close enough to me to feel you can just drop by, why wouldn’t you text me, my husband or a family member to check when a good time would be?  That’s called common courtesy. 

OP, you say that your friend is private but also quoted her as saying you could come to visit the baby once born.  I can understand why you were reluctant to go and if your friend is at all upset because she felt an invite was implied, I think a discussion to explain the misunderstanding will clear it up.

 

 

Post # 79
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Mrs. Honeybee:  Who in the hell are you?  You think you know me?  

I tell you what…

 I wrote my situation of something that happened a very long time ago for the op.  This may shock you but I was not looking for your approval, comments or understanding.  And I never will.  

Now, that being said…  

I have to say some of the comments that have been made in many of the forums here are weddingbee have been what I call rude and out of line to many members.  And I’m talking about all of the boards lately…  

Its getting tiring that people bash other members over sharing their specific experiences to if they have a real diamond or not.  I mean God damn…  The entire forum section has gotten very rude lately.  None of the forums should be about cutting someones legs off at the knees.  Yet, that is exactly what is happening.  I do not know if people are that bored and its a sick way to entertain themselves or what.  

Honeybee…  I would obviously block you if I could.  Sitting faceless and nameless behind a computer taking stabs at people giving off the impression you are not flawed in your response does not win you any humanity points.  You are well aware once you post something that rude and out of line it won’t be deleted.  I mean…  wtf?  At the VERY LEAST do not talk to me.  I will not respond to you ever again about anything.  To be clear…  Leave me alone, do not pm me, I will NOT respond.

Post # 80
Member
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

littlebee94:  Yes, you are right.  This happened many many years ago.  And yes…  Some women ignore their friends after the baby and others do not.  There are obviously many life changes that happen when having a baby and everyone handles it different.  

To be honest I’m older now and don’t have ‘close’ friends like when I was much younger.  At the time my friends actions were hurtful.  This girl was like my family, a sister I never had.  Nevertheless, people change when they have a baby.  Now that I have my own family and set of things to worry about I don’t let people in my life as easily.  It could be because I live abroad so I keep my family closer.  It happens.  i guess everyone handles things differently at different points of their lives.

Post # 81
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6560 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

I’ll agree that this might not sit well with everyone, but around here no one invites anyone to come to the hospital. We hear about a birth, find out when visiting hours are, and we come bearing flowers or a gift to see the mum and the new baby. We don’t call to set up a time, and we don’t ask permission. If we are friends or family, we simply come and visit.

When I had my children, people did the same. They did not call ahead; they just came by the hospital to see me and the baby. It would never have occurred to me to call and set up a time. I wonder if perhaps your friend expected the same and wonders why you did not come to see her. In this case it would simply be differing expectations, and I would call her now and ask to come by so you can both talk it out.

Post # 82
Member
553 posts
Busy bee

I did not want visitors.  I was glad when a good friend of mine ASKED me if I wanted her to visit, I told her that was ok.  Seriously, you are in such bad shape afterwards and your hormones are going crazy, it is not the time to entertain.  I can’t believe you would be judging her not inviting you to the hospital, honestly, I figured this thread would be about someone who was not invited to see a baby that was a couple months old or something. 

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