- 7 years ago
Hey bee’s. I’ve been best friends with this girl for over 6 years. We’ll call her SB. She was the only friend I’ve had that I felt connected to, not romantically, just in the sense that EVERYTHING happened to us at the exact same time. Everything. Even our periods were in sync. She’s been rude and vicious towards me nonstop within the past year. She even sent me a LIST of why she “hates” talking to me.
The gist of the list was that I have a handsome clean cut Prince Charming looking guy (30yrs old) who adores me and treats me like a queen, whereas hers is a grungy (19yrs old) ICP tattoo guy that spends all of his time pimping out his car, can never hold a job and never showers. We’ve both been with our men over 3 yrs.
Second on the list, was that she’s upset my Fiance and I just bought a house together and adopted a rare GS puppy, Ryder..meanwhile she’s living in her guy’s parent’s basement, not allowed to have pets, and his family keeps stealing her things. And her bf does NOT want to leave the nest to get their own place.
About 6 months ago I learned my bf was planning to propose (Found a receipt in the laundry with a certain date circled, so I knew when it was going to happen). When I called her expecting her to be happy for me, she started SCREAMING at me and hung up.
Later on I heard from a mutual friend, after hearing the news about my soon engagement, SB went home and gave her bf an ultimateum to propose within a month. He got her a ring and just handed it to her and then she called me to brag it felt like. I was happy for her, but part of me felt like she’s trying to compete with me. Anyways, my fiance took longer than expected because he said he wanted to get me my dream ring, and I was happy to wait because I knew he was trying to make it special for me. So when the day came and he got on one knee and asked me to marry him, I almost fainted, I was so happy.
Later on that week I called her over so we could see eachothers rings. She got to my house, took one look at my ring and asked how much it was. I told her price is not important but I told her he got it from Fred Meyers, and she blew up on me again saying she saw that ring in the store window for over 6 grand and then she looked down at her ring and called it a “p.o.s pawn shop reject for less than 200!” I stood there speechless! After a minute of uncomfortable silence, she looked at my ring and got angry, she even called me a “Spoiled b*tch!”. When things got worse I made her leave, and my fiance rushed in to comfort me because he just pulled up when he saw her kick our mailbox on the way back to her car. I couldn’t believe she got ANGRY at my engagement ring!!!! Something’s changed about her..and I feel like she hates that I’m happy!
I don’t know what to do when it feels like she only wants to talk to me to brag and then she gets ANGRY when things are going good for me. What should I do, how do I approach this?!!!