(Closed) Best Friend Engaged Before Me

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

It’s best not to compare your relationship with others. Time means nothing, if your not in the position to marry, then your time will come. Your friend is getting married because they have just had a child and feel it’s probably right for them to do it now – I wouldn’t say they would be engaged if not.

I went through phases of being envious of those getting married before me, but when you do – the excitement makes you forget all that. I wouldn’t bring it up with SO, it will be tough on him too, especially if he feels he is the root of your unhapiness.

Enjoy your relationship for what it is, it will happen sooner when your both happy 🙂

Post # 4
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387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@spaneshal:  Very true!

I have a friend who just had a baby last night, after being with her now fiance for 2.5 years. I started dating my partner 5 years ago and we are just about to get married. Some people move faster than others, and it’s just best to not compare your relationship to others.

The rate we’re moving (due to careers, study and buying an investment property) means we probably won’t have children until all our friends kids are in school! 

Just be patient, and enjoy the life you share together 🙂

Post # 5
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1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@bubbles83:  I feel you, Trust me! I too am waiting for a proposal that has been coming for 4 years ( dating for a little over 5) It is very fustrating at times. Best advice any one ever gave me was do your own thing.  I still get upset, cry, mad. Today I got so upset that i didnt even want to really talk to him for almost 9 hours!

  Just try to be patient like PP said. Ive gotten much better with trying to just enjoy being with him. Even tho EVERYONE around us is getting engaged!

Post # 6
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771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@bubbles83:  You guys are in a tough spot (finances, living with his Mom, etc).  But look at it as an opportunity to grow together, and create a stronger bond, a deeper love.  The strength of any relationship goes so far beyond how much you love one another.  The true test of love, and its longevity, is how the couple pulls through together during hardships.

And I totally agree with the previous statements – don’t compare your relationship to others.  It’s futile.  Your relationship is yours, own it, the good and the bad.

Your time will come, and you will look back on this with pride.

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