Post # 1
One of my best friends, whom I have know since we were 4, just got engaged (we’re 23 now).
I’m so incredibly happy for her. I’ve met her fiance and he seems like a great guy. They live out of the country and I know I have to be at the wedding (want to really), so my SO and I are already planning our trip there.
I don’t think it would happen, but I’ve been day dreaming about my SO proposing while we’re on our trip there. Would that be stealing my friend’s thunder? lol
That’s not what this post is really about though. I’m really happy for my friend. I’m glad she is where she is supposed to be. I hope I will be there at some point too.
Post # 3
If he proposes before the wedding, it might be stealing her thunder, depending on what sort of deal you guys make out of it at her wedding. If he proposes after it, definitely not, that’s totally fine!
Post # 4
I agree with distracts. If he proposes privately and no one knows until after the wedding, it’s ok.
Post # 5
Since she lives out of the country, I would guess you two don’t see each other often. I would put thoughts/anxiety of a possible proposal out of your mind while you are with her during her wedding and instead focus on getting to see her. Your time will come, too! As an aside, even though you’re just day dreaming and were partially joking (I think), it would be very tacky etiquette wise for him to propose in public at someone else’s wedding, reception, or rehearsal dinner. While I always cringe at the whole ‘stealing the thunder’ thing, in this instance, it’s in poor taste unless it’s in private and doesn’t take focus away on your friend and her FI’s special day.
I was a waiting-bee, too, and now I look back and really mourn how much of my life passed me by while I was so obsessed over an engagement. Enjoy the moment and let things happen when they are supposed to. 🙂
Post # 6
That would be selfish, yall should do it when it isnt someone elses event. But it is good youre happy fpr her
Post # 7
If he got up on the stage at her reception and asked you to marry him then, it’s stealing her thunder. Otherwise, it would be fine. Just try to keep it subtle if he proposes before the wedding, while you’re in that country. If he proposes after, you’re good. And anytime between now and then is obviously fair game.
Post # 8
Congrats to her! And it’s totally okay to daydream about it happening then… As long as you never suggest it as an idea to your SO!
Post # 9
You ladies misunderstood the intent behind my post. a) My SO would never publicly propose, let alone at someones wedding lol b) My SO isn’t planning on proposing for anywhere between a year to 3 years (my friend’s wedding is within this year). This was just me daydreaming of him picking a romantic moment while we were on vacation. The vacation just happens to be for the wedding lol
I appreciate all the replies. I just wanted to share a few sentiments about friends’ engagements.
Post # 10
@Kat_Kit2000: ah, i did misunderstand! sorry! Nothing wrong with a daydream =0) Who knows maybe he will decide sooner is better and he’ll do it during some private moment you don’t expect