Post # 1
So my best friend of many years has spent a lot of time overseas . She recently moved back to the US and started a new job . During the health screening for her new position she found out she has contracted tuberculosis . Apparently there is a several months long drug regimen you can be put on that she’s not too interested in taking . She will decide that soon .
I have a baby and am now terrified to be around her . In many parts of the world TB is a huge killer . There is latent tb which is not transmittible – but even latent tb has a ten percent chance of becoming active at some point in her lifetime . I’m struggling with what to do to keep myself and baby safe , and also at the same time somehow keep a relationship with my best friend .
Post # 2
Talk to your pediatrician.
Post # 3
zl27 : My baby and I have been tested and are fine – we’d not have it -my pediatrician does not seem too concerned . Said its so contagious you could be at a museum or on a bus and if someone with active tb coughs you could catch it .
Post # 4
So does she latent TB? If it’s latent TB then she’s not contagious. Yes, it could become active but there would be symptoms and you could take proper precautions at that time.
Post # 5
Apparently there is a several months long drug regimen you can be put on that she’s not too interested in taking . She will decide that soon .
Erm. It’s not a CHOICE! That sounds incredibly silly. TB can lie dormant for years and it’s highly contagious. She could get you, your baby or anyone around her sick literally any time. If not now, perhaps even a decade down the line. Having worked around a lot of TB patients, I can tell you she needs to go on that regimen. For her own sake and everyone else.
Talking from personal experience, my father worked overseas for years and contracted TB at some point in his career (we were never able to establish how or when). The doctors said he could have been a carrier for about 2 decades. Anyway, as long as he was healthy everything was good and he never even knew he had it. Later in life, as his body generally got weaker with age, his immunity dropped and that’s when the dormant TB bacteria sprung into action. He was put on the regimen, which was comparable to oral chemotherapy, for a year. It was incredibly hard and almost life threatening.
It’s only wise for your friend to take the treatment now, while she’s healthy and young, and not wait for when her body is older and weaker.
I’m glad you and your baby are fine, but TB is HIGHLY contagious. You should not continue to be around an infected person.
Post # 6
noobee92 : P.S. I’m not a medical practitioner. I’ve just worked with numerous TB patients.
Post # 7
I’m not an expert either, but my ex-boyfriend’s mother died of TB. They could not afford medical care to treat it (they were not well off living in South East Asia) I don’t understand why anyone who has access to the treatment would refuse. Also as a mother I can understand your fear of being around her with your baby. I don’t even understand how she’s allowed to refuse treatment when that puts innocent people at risk.
Post # 8
Get yourself and your baby vaccinated. There is a TB vaccine (which really your friend should have had before going overseas…. but that is horse and stable door now)
Your friend really should take the treatment as TB is a killer and I hope she is not having to make this choice due to cost.
Post # 9
I honestly would tell her your concerns. A family member of mine had it and was undiagnosed. He was killed in an accident and if they hadn’t of found it during autopsy they wouldn’t have known that his toddler had contracted it. I’m no expert but I wouldn’t have my baby around this friend if there’s any risk no matter how slight.
Post # 10
So basically she wants to wait until she *personally* is affected by it. (i.e. feels sick) Everyone else is just not important to her, or what?
Yeah, ask your friend how many people with compromised or underdeveloped immune systems (the sick, aging or children) she wants to infect first. That is horrendously selfish.
I am sorry, but I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone that self interested. I know it’s a lot of judgement, but I am not sorry for it.
Post # 11
v132722 : “My baby and I have been tested and are fine – we’d not have it -my pediatrician does not seem too concerned . Said its so contagious you could be at a museum or on a bus and if someone with active tb coughs you could catch it . “
But in this case you are around someone you KNOW has it. Of course lot’s of illnesses lurk everwhere and you can’t protect yourself and your children completely. But, jeesh, this is something you are actively exposed to and presents a very real danger. (who knows exactly when the disease will become active)
I totally understand your worry OP! I am worried and livid for you!
But you lost me at “she’s not too interested in taking” the drug regiment. I would be saying goodbye to any friendship where a person has complete disregard for my health, the health of my children and general public. Not good.
Post # 12
“Friend, while I respect that you are allowed to make your own decisions about your health and body, I have both myself and child to think about. We’ll need to limit our contact to texting and facebook. I hope you understand.”
Post # 13
“Apparently there is a several months long drug regimen you can be put on that she’s not too interested in taking . She will decide that soon.”
Well how the hell else does she plan to overcome one of the deadliest diseases in history? With essential oils and Emergen-C?
Post # 14
if you have a curable disease, wouldn’t you want to get rid of it? regardless if it affects other people. I don’t understand the reasoning..
Post # 15
I would never risk my, or anyone I love’s, health like that. Or anyone elses for that matter either. Ofc you must do what you can to limit the risk of you or your baby catching the disease.
I can’t believe how incedably selfish she is about this … I would have a hard time staying friends with her after that kind of reasoning. Even after she had gone through the med-care, as most likely, after what you said, the reason she would take it for would be that people in her life would stop hanging out with her if she doesnt, not the possibility of her, though “indirectly”, harming or even killing people.
What a horrible person.
I hope she comes to her senses whether it is for selfish reasons or not.