(Closed) Best friend has picked an almost identical dress to mine, not to mention…..

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 47
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Busy bee

Hmm that is a bit much – the same engagement ring, wedding band, a similar dress, have you asked her about it?

Post # 48
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

@amanda06:  I completely agree.

OP – you need to remove the pic of her.

Post # 49
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Am I the only one who hopes your “best friend” sees this (and recognises herself, which she will with the photo of her you posted, presumably without her permission to do so…) and realises who her true friends are? I don’t care how mad you are that she chose similar things to your wedding, this is really inappropriate.

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with the others who say you should take the picture down.  I would be pretty devistated if my best friend did as you have.

That said, as odd as it is that she’s decided to copy you, take a deep breath and let it go.  If this is something you think your friendship should suffer over, confront her.  If not, drop it.  She liked your style, and like @xokaleneox said, this could have been what she was wanting way before you even purchased your dress.

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I must say that I’m quite shocked that you posted her picture. I don’t think that’s what best friends do or something anyone does to any friend actually.

I think you should really get a grip on yourself. Your wedding is OVER. You got married first, no one remembers your wedding except yourself. No one will remember hers either.

 

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with PP, I do not think that you should of posted her picture without her permission at all.  And I personally think both looks are different.  Yours looks for formal, hers looks more relaxed and beachy.

I have to say that your style (while pretty) is bang on trend, and not very avant garde.  So it doesn’t suprise me in the slightest that the similarities of the assymetical dress and the hair flower are there.  I think they would all be in any magazine that you opened.

I am sure you enjoyed your day, so let your friend enjoy hers.  I highly doubt anyone was comparing the two (except maybe for you).

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

First, I completely agree with the PP that your friend’s photo should not have been posted on the board. I would be so hurt if my best friend posted something like this about me, rather than talking to me in person. Please consider your friend’s feelings and take it down. Also consider that if your friend is planning a wedding, does she follow this site? She might see the board and the photos of you, and recognize herself in the story.

I really do understand your frustration with what seems to be your friend taking ‘excessive inspiration’ from your own special day. We all want to think of our weddings as unique and truly ‘us’. However, as some of the previous posters have said (rather unnecessarily harshly, I thought), the reality is that many brides all read the same magazines, follow the same Pinterest boards and keep up with the same popular wedding blogs.  

I just got engaged and am planning a wedding for October. One of my best friends got engaged a couple of weeks later and is planning a wedding for January. One of our other best friends is going to be getting engaged any time now. We all shop in the same stores, frequently end up with the same items and all in all, have similar taste! I think we will all be extra conscious of that fact when we wedding shop and plan, but at the end of the day, you should buy what you love for your own wedding.There may end up being some common elements in our respective weddings, but I hope we can manage not to have hard feelings over it. Our friendships are much more important.

I hope that you smooth things over with your friend, even if the conflict is only personal to you and not out in the open. While I agree that is was a little tacky of her to buy such similar pieces without asking if it would bother you, she is your best friend and that relationship will long outlive your wedding ceremonies. Remember why you love her, and just be happy for her on her special day. She clearly thought yours was so magical and lovely that it was the image she saw when she planned her own wedding.

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think her dress is similar at all.  I think you’re being insecure. The only thing that is similar is the silhouette.  You get ONE dress and ONE day.  You don’t get a whole silhouette all to yourself.  IMO, you’re being selfish.

And posting her pic was a mean thing to do. =/

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It’s not the same dress.  Was she not allowed to wear any 1 strap empire waisted dresses without upsetting you?  So you guys have similar tastes. Makes sense, seeing as you are best friends.

Post # 58
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I just got engaged and I have a friend who literally copies me with every opinion… Before I was engaged I wanted a yellowdiamond and talked about it a lot … Well my Fiance gave me his grandmothers diamond and I love it! Well the friend who is not engaged claims she loves yellowdiamonds and wants one ( she doesn’t have a bf) I know that she is secretly jealous that I am getting married and planning this wedding and she isn’t right now… She talks more about her future wedding than I ever do of my now wedding. I get so aggravated to where I literally want to yell at her bc I feel like she is trying to one up me when I literally haven’t tried to do that to her…. But then I have to remember that she is selfconscious and isn’t happy with herself. As hard as it will be … Just give her what she wants and be happy for her. I know… It sucks bc it feels like she is taking away from your thunder of your wedding… My Fiance always says ” ignore it and move on bc in the big picture of things it really doesn’t matter” and I roll my eyes and say fine 🙂 

Post # 59
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Blushing bee

Kinda looks like you both copied the maggie picture lol

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