- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
My best friend of over 20 yrs has a live in BF who loves her, supports her and gives her everything he can. He works 12+ five days a week and is so kind. My friend has 3 kids that she hasn’t seen in 5 yrs, they live with their dad out of state. She doesn’t work and cheats on her BF.
I know her live in BF pretends to be okay with her going out with other guys. He’s 14 yrs older than her. Even though he kinda gave her the ok, he does have his moments of feeling used. (From the FB post he puts up. Directed on her page too) She tells me too that he’s starting to question her a lot because she doesn’t come home after going out with her 2nd “BF.” And even the 2nd BF gives her problems of jealousy. But then they both end up apologizing and all is ok! lol
I feel bad for her live in BF because he’s the one working his ass off to support her and give her a home and this second guy is benefiting from it. She hasn’t been home in 3 days and her live bf just tells her he misses her and can’t wait for her to get home, after posting some really sketchy fb post about honest, loyalty and too old to play games and waste time with someone with no potential.
Shes my best friend and I care fir her and all, but I just don’t understand her. She takes everything for granted and only cares about herself. It bothers me sometimes because she has the chance to be home every night with someone who loves her bad spoils her. I can’t even sleep or cook dinner for my FI because he works nights and travels for work. She says she doesn’t have fun with her live in bf and she just can’t be with one person. And if they love her, they just have to deal with it. It’s hard to want to hangout with her because I just don’t agree with her. I’m all about being faithful and being with one person.
Anyways, I know her lifestyle doesn’t affect me but it kinda does. Because my FI doesn’t really want to be around her or have her over our new home. He can’t stand cheaters and lairs and thinks she just so dirty to be sleeping around and go back to the person who is faithful and supports her financially. I’m stuck because I want to be able to have dinner parties but FI doesn’t want her in our home. He believes relationships with your kids and SO are most important, honest and loyal. She has neither.
I guess I’m just venting. I was struggling for a while, homeless and dealing with so much. And here I see my friend so very fortunate to not have to work, was given a place to live, someone who loves her and supports her financially, but that’s not enough for her and she takes full advantage. I guess after what I been through, I see tongs differently now and I’m so grateful for my FI and what we have now, that I would never take it for granted.
I’ve always been there for her. Even if I never agreed with her behavior. Like when she left her 3 kids and FI for some other guy without telling them she was leaving. And no one knew where she was at for a week. Her baby dad even let her have GFs. I don’t know how she gets away with all this. Lol.
But is a friend always a friend no matter what or is it time to cut ties when you just can’t support their behavior anymore?