Post # 1
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Helper bee
Having a bit of a sad right now. I moved overseas about a year ago, so have been planning my wedding without family and friends nearby. I’ve been trying to keep them in the loop by sending pictures of dresses and such through to get their advice, but haven’t got a whole lot of feedback (which is understandable, I know people are busy). At any rate, I found a few dresses I really like, one in particular that I love and put a $200 deposit on. It is not a “traditional” dress, which appeals to me since I think I could probably wear it again to balls and such.
My friend really likes another one of the dresses I tried on, which is fine, except she said a whole lot of quite nasty things about the dress I love (it looks like “a sack” on me, all her friends at work saw the pictures and thought it looked ugly and should wear something more fitted, etc.). So now I’m just confused. There is still plenty of time before the wedding for me to find a dress, but because this dress is an out-of-production sample, I either get it now or never see it again.
Anyway, this is the dress in question. It is an Elizabeth Fillmore in silk and chiffon (I do think it actually looks better in real life over pics, it flows really nicely). Opinions?
This is the second dress that my friend wants me to buy. I like it too, but probably not quite as much as the first one:
They are both around $1000. I have until Friday to make a decision (either I get something or lose my deposit). This is causing me so much stress I’m tempted to just abandon the whole thing and try again in a few months, but I’m worried I’ll have dress regret either way! Help. 🙁
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
Honestly, I like the first one so much more. Your friend shouldn’t have said such hateful things to you about it, not cool of her. The dress is beautiful!
Post # 4
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Busy bee
Go with your gut. If you the like the first one then stick with it! I know it hurts what your friend said but it’s not her wedding.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
You definitely do not look like a sack. What a mean thing to say 🙁 I think it is a gorgeous dress and you definitely rock it! I will admit it is not very bridal and maybe that is throwing your friend off, but if you’re not going for a traditional look anyway then who cares?
I like it better than the second dress. The first dress makes the second one look boring in comparison.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
wow what a b****. The second dress really is nothing special (kinda prom IMO) , the first one is so flattering, pretty and feminine. Go with the one you picked, and tell your friend that if she doesn’t have something nice to say, she should just leave it alone!
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
I don’t think it looks like a “sack”, what a nasty comment. That being said, I think the second dress looks much nicer. If you’re not sure about either, keep trying until you find one you really love.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
Honestly no I don’t like the first one, it just kind of hangs on you and doesn’t look bridal at all. I could see a guest wearing the same thing just in a different color. That is something to consider. Do you look bad? No! You have a great figure, you couldn’t look bad if you tried. It just doesn’t make you look as good as you can ykwim?
Post # 9
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Helper bee
I think the first one is much more fun, is a prettier dress overall, and is very flattering! Not many women have the figure to pull it off — but you definitely do.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
I’d say either dress one or keep looking if you’re having doubts. Not a fan of the second. Personally, I would totally wear something like the first one!
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Honestly I think they both look lovely. I kind of thought I wouldn’t like the first dress, it is very different from anything I’ve seen and wouldn’t look great on so many people. But actually I think you pull it off really well and just come across as classy and elegant (as well as different).
You look stunning in both of the dresses but since 1 is the one you love, go with that one!
Best wishes to you x
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
Aww, I’m so sorry to hear that. I wish your friend was a little bit nicer in the way she expressed her feelings to you about the dress you liked. She didn’t have to say it looked like a Sack. Anyways, while it’s not my style I think it’s a beautiful dress. I LOVE how is “NON TRADITIONAL” and I like the flowyness to it. I like dress 2 also but I think 1 is more unique. Just remember sweetie not everybody is going to like your dress choice and I know that can really suck and hurt a little. In the end it’s YOUR wedding and you have to choose the dress that you can invision yourself walking down the isle in. Good Luck. 
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
here’s the thing, this is YOUR WEDDING, not hers. its YOUR DRESS, her approval isn’t needed even if it is wanted. You feeling beautiful and loving your dress is far more important than her liking the dress you choose. And who cares what the strangers that she works with think as well. Go with your feelings and let everyone else’s opinions fall to the wayside.
FWIW I think the first dress is lovely. It’s also rather unique which makes it that much more beautiful.
Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
Sorry, I’m not a fan of the first one either. It looks more like a night gown to me than a wedding dress. I like the second more. Everyone is going to have different tastes though.. go with what you like the most.
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
I like the second one better, but that being said, it’s not my wedding. You need to pick the one that makes you happy. Not your friend, not other bees (sorry ladies!) You look hot in both! Pick your dress. 🙂
Post # 16
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Newbee
I really like dress one. It is unique.
I know it’s hard when everyone around you has an opinion. My friend told me my dress made my hips look big. But I knew it was “The dress” because I didn’t want to take it off!
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