(Closed) Best Friend (MOH) and BF (GM) Break Up After 4 Years?!?!?!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That sounds awful! I’m not sure what you say to someone like that. I would just give her a lot of hugs and let her know you are supportive. In my opinion, it sounds like the bf might be leaving her for someone else. It is very odd how he out of the blue said he’s feeling different. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t know what to say either, but that’s really sad.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

Aww, your poor friend.  That sucks!  My only advice is to give her hugs, let her talk about it, or not talk about it.  Whatever she wants.  Take her out of the room she’s been in, even if it’s just for a walk or a coffee.  And maybe try to avoid the old cliches (there’s plenty of fish in the sea; these things happen for a reason; it wasn’t meant to be; etc) which I’m sure you wouldn’t say anyway!  Good luck and all the best to your friend.  You’re a good friend for going to be with her. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Wow, that is rough! It’s pretty shocking sometimes. One of FI’s friends recently announced her divorce and we were all pretty shocked. They had been together 4+ years and married for ~1 year. It’s always a little awkward, but just being supportive and not being judgmental (I don’t think you are! I’m just saying in general) when dealing with that kind of stuff is rough. So are they broken up or are they just fighting?? :/

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@thanlon_88:  I could be wrong, that was just my first instinct when reading your post. You’re being a great friend by going to be with her. I’m sure having you there will help.

Post # 11
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That does suck.  I have to say though as someone who broke up with an ex after about 6.5 years together, it may look sudden, but it takes a lot to get to that point.  You don’t air the problems and just hope things get better..and when they don’t, you attempt a semi break up and see how it goes.  Its sounds exactly like what I’d done…

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I got abandoned by my exhusband two nights before my aunt’s wedding. I was so ashamed of my “failure” that I was late to the tea ceremony, and made my mom late. I felt so awful that I spent the whole morning crying upstairs in the bathroom and trying to stop because I needed to sew myself back up for my family. I still am embarrassed about that. I wish I had the positive outlook in life that I have now because I would’ve dealt with it a bit better.

Weddings will invoke raw emotions, especially if they haven’t worked out or had some closure before. I didn’t get that, so that’s why I was such a mess.

If I had gone to a wedding the week after breaking up with my last ex, I would’ve been perfectly fine because it was a long time coming. Support your friend as you’ve had, and if she needs to talk it out, be that pillow to cry on.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

((Sorry double post.))

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@thanlon_88:  I’m so sorry to hear that.  Sometimes nice guys have the hardest time breaking up…so they tend to do cowardly things because they can’t deal with facing their girlfriends.  You’re a good friend and she’s lucky to have you to lean on right now.  I wish you could be with her right now, but you will be with her again soon, and even from a distance you are going to be so helpful to her.  I can’t possibly tell you how helpful my long distance bestie was when I broke up with my Fiance at one point.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh that poor girl, regardless of the circumstances that is just terrible.  Luckily she has a great BFF who will help her through all of this.  Has your Fiance talked to her Boyfriend or Best Friend (ex BF) to see what his ‘side’ is?  

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