(Closed) Best friend passed away who would have been my MOH

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How about carrying a picture of her in your bouquet? That way she’s standing with you! 

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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My best friend died when we were children. It was something personal for me to honor her on the day of, but I didn’t incorporate it into our wedding. It wasn’t appropriate for that and far too personal for me. I had the florist make a duplicate of my bouquet and I brought it to her grave. I sat and talked to her for a long while, told her things I wanted to tell her. My Maid/Matron of Honor came with me, and it was a very beautiful, personal, touching moment. At least for me, it would’ve been ruined if I brought it into the whole day. Your Maid/Matron of Honor is personal, someone deeply tied to your heart and soul. Do something private the day of if you can manage it.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m so sorry that this happened.   When i was 18, a very close friend very suddenly passed,  from a heart attack.   He was 19, and like a brother.   It was very difficult.  

My dad passed when i was 5.  I miss him terribly,  and knew that i needed to honor him.  so, i had a photo charm on my bouquet with my dad’s photo in It.  That way, he still walked with me down the aisle. 

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Boettcher Mansion

I was going to suggest something similar to what Hyperventilate said, maybe have them make her a bridesmaid’s bouquet and then stop by her grave before your wedding to drop it off? I am planning on taking my bridal bouquet to my dad’s grave the morning after and leaving it there to honor him. I’m also wearing a bracelet with his fingerprint engraved on it, and I’m hoping to have a chair in the front row where I can drape one of his suit jackets with a boutonniere pinned to it.

You can also have a picture frame with a picture of them in it, and maybe a poem or a quotation. There’s so many options, and they can be as public or as private as you want. It’s such a personal decision, so only you know what will feel right! Just remember, they will be with you on your wedding day in whatever way is possible. 🙂

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I had a table at my reception with a sign that said “we know you’d still be here today if heaven werent so far away” and we framed pictures of grandparents, aunts and uncles that passed away. You could always frame a picture of her and place it somewhere.

not a dinner table, a table in one of the rooms of the ‘venue

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Buzzing bee

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hills_87:  

Both my SO and I lost our best friends, mine to a car accident  and his while they were deployed in Afghanistan together. It has been a few years but we still feel a very close connection to them, and would have wanted them heavily involved. We both still have good friends we want to be our best man and maid of honor. What we plan to do to honor our best friends will be to reserve a seat in the front row of our ceremony.

Also I have a small locket photo of my best friend that was gifted to me at her funeral that I plan to have on my bouquet so she can still be up there with me, along with a few more meanigful photos like my parents wedding portrait.

 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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hills_87:  i honored my father by attached a picture charm of my dad on my bouquet, i also mentioned him and DHs grandmother in the wedding program, and at the reception I played a montage of pics of my dad, mom and me. Everyone loved it.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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hills_87:  I just wanted to say that I love the idea of how you are going to honor your dad. I think that’s fun and beautiful and touching. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We had a picture table with photos of my husband’s father, his grandparents and my aunt and cousin. We didn’t overload it or add any signage, but since we had such a small wedding most everyone knew what it was. My husband’s father’s favorite flowers were gardenias, so we had some of those placed on the table too.

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I’m so sorry for your loss.  She can still be listed as your Maid/Matron of Honor in absentia.

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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hills_87:  Wow – I could have written this post. I, too, lost my best friend and a parent (my mom). I also didn’t want my wedding to become a memorial for them so I did a couple things. I put something in our ceremony program honoring those we had lost (had our grandparents, a nephew, etc.’s names). I also had two charms made with a picture of my mom and a picture of my best friend and I attached those to my bouquet. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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hills_87:   I love the idea of an empty chair…. Just not with the bridal party.  We are having an empty chair in the front row for my grandparents who passed away several years ago.  I also like 
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catlover29:‘s idea. We are also doing a pic bio for each person in the bridal party so everyone knows a little more about them. This would be another way to show how much she meant to you.

 

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