(Closed) Best Friend Upset

posted 13 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It is really unfortunate that she can’t be happy for you 🙁  Sometimes all your friends get married before you and you just need to accept it.  I am 25 and most of my close friends are already married, but I was super happy when they were engaged and throughout all their wedding planning!  Everyone moves at a different pace in life… I hope she can be happy for you soon!!! 🙂

Post # 18
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800 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Man. Although I feel for your friend, I had a friend like this and ended up having to distance myself from her. Depression is a beast. It’s one thing to be lonely, it’s another to go to your engaged friends and constantly rain on their parade in a not-very-passive-aggressive way. I don’t know, I just lost the patience for it. Hopefully she’ll be happy for you soon, but in the meantime, try not to reinforce it too much by paying the negative attitude a lot of attention.

Post # 19
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2022

I agree that she has no right to be upset with you for getting engaged, but also that you should continue treading lightly with her regarding wedding talk. Like Mr. Bee said, it’s not neccessarily that she’s mad about being single, but about ‘losing’ all her friends to their new fiances and husbands. I know I feel a little alone being the only one of my close friends who IS engaged. I always worry that I won’t fit in with the group any more. I imagine that if it was the other way around, if they were all engaged and I was single, I would be just as afraid of losing them because they would only want to do couples activities.

If that is the problem, I recommend setting aside time to hang out with just her or with whatever group you two always used to hang out with. Make sure she knows you won’t go all domestic on her just because you’re married, and that there are still good times ahead!

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