(Closed) Best Friend wants me to help her pick her ring.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I would be upset too. Why does someone need moral support for ring shopping? I “ring shop”  all the time by myself I never need moral support 🙂

If it were wedding dress shopping Id say suck it up, but ring? come on thats for her and her future Fiance to figure out.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I don’t want to plant any dastardly little hope seeds so please take this with a grain of salt: Last time SO wanted to get my jewelry, he had my friend pretend it was for her and we went shopping together. Later that week, I was presented with earrings that I had picked out that day.

It seems like this is really out of character for your BFF and SO so maybe it’s something like that? In the very least, your SO could go to your friend for accurate advice later now that she knows your taste, too.

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@SoobySays:  I didnt even think of that… but yea I wouldnt want to get my hopes up if I were her, she might just have a bragging friend.

Post # 9
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@imsandradee:  you know your friends best to know if this is out of character for her or not

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

What’s so hard to understand about wanting you with her?

1) If you’ve been waiting longer the chances that you know more about rings etc are greater.

2) If she wants the ring to be a surprise then her SO isn’t going to ask her about rings, he’s going to ask YOU when the time comes.

3) Perhaps her SO wants time to save and knowing what she likes will give him a figure? Plus getting a ring made (if that’s something she wants) can take time too, he’s just preparing.

4) She thought it would be fun to go together and you can help her not get side tracked by trendy things but what she actually wants

I realise that this will be hard for you but look at it as an excuse to look at rings and have girly fun times with your friend, how many other opportunities will you have to look at engagement rings together?

P.S. Make sure you are looking for yourself as well, just in case 😉 

 

Post # 11
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Newbee

You aren’t a lousy friend at all, I would find it really difficult in your situation. You will get through it though x

Post # 12
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2011 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

When you help her choose a ring- try some on yourself too. that way you can go home and slyly mention to you SO that it was rude not to try some on too and you like this one, that one and one like this…he might get the hint!!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Yea, try to enjoy the pre-shopping and get a fit for what looks good on your hand…while being a sound board for your friend.

Like water over your back.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Go with her!  It can’t hurt for you both to know what the other likes.  My best friend and I always knew what the other liked in a ring, just in case someone asked 🙂

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Wow, if this is a close friend, you should suck it up. My Maid/Matron of Honor and me always do that sort of stuff together, she’s happy and she wants her friend to share her joy and be apart of her experience, that’s completely understandable. While many of us feel that twinge of jealousy whenever a friend or relative is getting married and we’re still waiting , but you need to learn to put aside your jealousy and be there for your friend, thats what good friends do. 

ETA: Also definately make sure you look at things you like too, never know when it will come in handy.

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