Member- lelizabeth62
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I have been dating my fiance for five and a half years. He proposed over leap day. And we recently set our wedding date. My best friend from college, is a missions major. And she has her internship in Kosovo for seven months.
My best friend and I have been cutting up Bridal Magazines for years now. I see her a couple times a year, and love her to death, but sometimes she can be a bit selfish. She asked me to bump my wedding date back four months so she can attend.
Last weekend I had to tell her that we set our wedding date and would be taking place while she was in Kosovo. The guilt she laid on was pretty thick. We both cried and hugged it out. She has since sent texts saying that the thought of not being in my wedding is unbearable.
The thing is, for me, it’s all about being married rather than the wedding. My wedding is going to be super simple, nothing fancy, all very simply and the whole affair will be over within three hours.
My fiance` asked if I would be okay with getting married without her there. We have been dating for five and a half years. We don’t live together and are strong Christians so there are other benefits and the idea of us hitting over the six year mark before we are married seems overwhelming, so, what do I do?
I want to include her in little pieces in parts, (I’ve even offered to pay most of her airfare to have her fly in because it such a big deal to her.) But again, to me the marriage is more exciting than the wedding.
What are special ways for me to include and encourage her during this time? Because she is truly struggling.