- Miss Leopard
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
So my beautiful best friend (seriously… a knockout) lives about an hour away from me. We used to live in the same city, but I moved for school. Anyway, she always dates these jerky guys– they all wear Ed Hardy and do UFC fighting and have tattoos and treat her like crap. They are usually very controlling, macho types. Luckily, she has only ever dated them for like 3 months or so, then she moves on to the next one.
I went and met her for lunch last week, and I hadn’t seen her in about 6 months. She shows up to the restaurant with her boyfriend (lets call him “Matt”). First of all, she didn’t tell me she was bringing him and I was dissapointed– I wanted a girls lunch, I haven’t seen her in forever! But I thought to myself, I haven’t met this guy yet, so now is as good of a time as any.
Background: they have been dating over a year, this is definitely the most serious I have ever seen her be with someone.
So he walks up to me in the parking lot and doesnt even say hi. So I stick out MY hand and am like “Hi! I’m TexasLawGirl! Nice to finally meet you– my friend talks about you all the time”. And he just kinda grunts at me. He comes inside sits down in the booth and texts or plays on his iPhone THE ENTIRE TIME. He didn’t speak. At ALL. Didnt try to get to know me, just sat there with his elbows on the table and his phone in front of his face.
So these are the things that bothered me:
1) My best friend is sitting across from me telling me about her new tattoo that she got on a recent trip (she has 5 or 6 small tattoos). And I (jokingly) say to her “Omg, the next tattoo you should get should be a My Little Pony tramp stamp!” (my Little Pony is our inside joke together) and Matt says to me “No, she isn’t allowed to get anything on her arms, legs, or lower back”. And I’m like whaaaaaaaat? And he says “Yeah. I don’t want her to have any tattoos that are showing. She isn’t allowed to get a tattoo there”
2) As she is talking to me, she starts absentmindedly twirling her hair around her finger. Matt kinda smacks her with his hand (not HIT her, but like nudges her) and goes “Quit THAT!”. And then she looks at me and goes “Sorry, Matt really hates it when I twirl my hair”
Do I say something about how this guy is treating her? She is my best friend, but we live in different cities, I don’t see her often, and she is very serious with this guy. I know how sensitive it can be when you feel like someone is criticizing your SO (my ex was quiet and ppl were always criticizing me about how “boring” he was). Do I let it go and just hope they break up?