- Mrs. Meowerson
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I would tell her just as she wouldnt go against her fiance’s wishes you will not be leaving your husband at home.
I agree with the pp
I wouldn’t leave my husband. If it’s truly all her Fiance then she will understand if you tell her you can’t attend.
How about bring him on the trip but leave him out of the ceremony/ reception. It’s your BFF, you should be there to support HER, screw him.
He cannot control who takes a vacation. He can control (or have a say) in who attends his wedding. Obviously you have to let your gf know this ahead of time.
Say I will come to the wedding but I am not travelling alone. Husband will be coming, however if he must miss the ceremony so be it. I think that’s a workable and fair compramise.
Kind of reminds me of this thread:
PS: I agree with the pp about sticking by your man
I agree with the hive, although you have helped out with the planning, simply wish her the best but tell her with regrets you can’t attend without your husband.
Considering you are now married I don’t see how this friends fiance would think your husband is a threat. Like really grow up. So I agree with PP that you stand by your husband and tell her sorry but unless they change their mind you won’t be attending the wedding.
I wouldn’t go without my FH either.
There is no way I would attend without my husband.. and that is so wrong that it would even be considered.. I politely decline
i mean i would politely decline lol sorry
Also, there will be someone attending our wedding that I don’t want there but this person will be in attendance because it is important to my FH. And there will be someone attending our wedding that FH doesn’t want to be there, but he will be coming because it is important to me. We make sacrifices in relationships, and your friend should be negotiating with her FH to make it so that your husband can attend– not hoping that you’d go without your husband. I would be very offended by that.
And he isn’t excluded in total. He’s not coming to the ceremony, but he gets to vacation with his wife. That sounds alright to me.
Question for the OP: how does your hubby feel? Does he want to attend the wedding? IF he doesn’t give a crap about the wedding, but wants to take a vacay- I think my suggestion sounds fab! If however he’s pissed he’s being excluded (which I’m not deneying is reasonable- I’d be pissed) I guess not attending at all would be the best choice.
Was just trying to give everyone a bit of what they wanted 🙂
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