(Closed) best friends wedding but the groom doesn’t want my husband to attend?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wouldn’t go to a wedding without my husband. And her Fiance needs to get over it. You are really good friends with her and she used to date your DH. He needs to see that there is no problem.

Post # 31
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That is so rude! I agree  you should talk to your friend about this. I have a similar situation. My Fiance is still friends with a ex of his and I’m not really concerned but her boyfriend is super jealous and can’t stand my Fiance. To me, its like “Hello! He’s marring someone else!” I’m also go friends with an ex of mine and Fiance and him hand out a lot. Her Fiance needs to grow up.

Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You are married to your best friends ex?

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@Baileyh: Obviously…..

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

All the bees are so quick to jump down this poor fiances throat about being uncomfortable about having his fiances ex there…but maybe we should think about the scenario then and put our feet in his shoes.

My DH, his “best friend” married his one and only ex. And i am grown up and responsible, and kind and nice…but i dont like the situation one dang bit either way. Do I accept it..yes, did i invite her to the wedding…yes. But it was weird and i didnt like it..and i still dont. So maybe this fiance doesnt want to have to see his new wifes ex lover strolling around his wedding…i think thats fair! I have been there, and its not fun!

 

I suggest go with what vmec said….bring your hubby to mexico but leave him out of the wedding. Its there day and if thats the way they want it, then thats the way it should be. Why should a groom feel uncomfortable at his own wedding?

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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@StarBadAzz: One date with all of this drama?! Jeeze!

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@StarBadAzz: ohh okay…well one date makes a difference. The groom should be a little more mature…but there is a part of me that understand where he is coming from…

Post # 39
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

And this is why friends shouldnt date each others exes!!

just kidding..

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@StarBadAzz: its an akward situation, but really it shouldnt be bc of how much time has expired between when they had there one dat (and really…one date…i wouldnt even consider it dating).

At the end of the day though, you are going to the wedding to support your friend, and this groom..its his wedding. I would be JUST as upset as you are about it, but at the end of the day..i think we need to remember who’s day this is. Would you want to convince the bride to let your husband come…what if drama occurs when groom sees your husband….is it worth it?

I dont know..i guess im trying to just spin another perspective on it. I do agree with some of the PP..the groom is being immature as nothing will happen…but i just see it as his day…and if thats what he wants. I know if i had had the balls to say what he did..i wouldnt have invited my DH’s bestfriend either…

Post # 41
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Bumble bee

Agree with PPs, I’d tell her I can’t attend without DH. Sounds like your BFF’s Fiance might have some jealousy issues… I mean seriously, one date?

Post # 42
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Worker bee

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@StarBadAzz: I totally agree with you u have been with your husband for 4 years! thats an insult to you as well. Does he think you are naive and don’t know your husband her Fiance seems like a child.. stick by your man Laughing

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