(Closed) Best friends wedding or nieces graduation.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Best friends wedding or nieces graduation?
    Wedding : (117 votes)
    54 %
    Graduation : (98 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 3
    556 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think you should go to your niece’s graduation. Essentially, you committed to it. You made plans when the wedding had been called off. You had no way of knowing the wedding would ever happen. Your friend should understand. If I were your niece and you told me you were coming to my graduation and then you changed your mind, however, my feelings would be hurt.

    Post # 4
    230 posts
    Helper bee

    I feel like wedding trumps HS graduation. BUT I also feel from the way you’ve worded this that you’d actually rather do the graduation.

    Post # 5
    7673 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @amandalillian:  Best friend’s wedding, every time. I don’t think extended family needs to attend a graduation. In fact I’ve never understood the big deal with watching someone spending a few seconds walking up and receiving a diploma. (My own brother and sister didn’t attend mine, and I didn’t attend theirs).

    Post # 7
    11270 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @amandalillian:  normally a bf’s wedding would trump a family graduation but in this case it may be a bit different.

    what is your gut telling you?

    Post # 8
    7673 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @amandalillian:  Well in my case they didn’t. But I would fully understand my brother or sister missing my graduation (or my birthday or pretty well anything else except my or children’s weddings) for their own best friend’s wedding.

    Post # 9
    1199 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015 - Malibou Lake Mountain Club

    @amandalillian:  well; are you close to your Niece and/or family? Kinda sounds like you do not want to go to your BF’s wedding by how you worded the post: “Kowing my friend like I do this could be only her first wedding and not her last.”

    It truly is up to you to see what is more important; also, expenses and who will understand more about not attending their celebration.

    Post # 10
    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Normally wedding is more important than graduation.  The couple was on A BREAK when you made your plans for your niece.  so i think you’re fine going to your niece’s graduation and family vacation.  

    Post # 12
    2602 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @amandalillian:  Niece. I don’t think a wedding is a bigger deal than a graduation, and your friend had canceled the wedding at the time you decided to attend the graduation in any case. Plus, your niece is blood.

    ETA: This is assuming you are close to your niece.


    Post # 13
    11657 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @amandalillian:  normally I would say wedding – none of my extended family attended my graduation from High School (except my grandmother) or univeristy (except my grandfather) and NONE of my family came to my second university graduation (except FH) because my dad and step mom were at her brothers wedding in another country and my mom was home with my sister who was due with my nephew 2 days later.

    BUT in this case, it sounds like you don’t want to go to the wedding, your niece sounds kind of like your BFF.  I’m guessing you’re 21 based on what you said…who do you see being a bigger part of your like 10 years from now?  That’s the event I would choose.

    Post # 14
    1213 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @amandalillian:  I would pick my niece’s graduation every time! My niece and I are not too far off in age, and are super close as well.

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