Post # 1
My fiance is trying to figure out who his best man is going to be. His Mother has been very pushy that he has to have it be his brother. Which I understand to a point, but it should be who he wants it to be. He really wants it to be his best friend. They have been best friends since they were in diapers. A side not too is that his brother has no job not responsible in anyway and doesnt even drive. I don’t even think he will be able to really be there for my fiance the way a best man should. Do you think he has to have it be his brother just because they are family?
Post # 3
Well the fact that brother has no job and can’t drive isn’t an issue. A best man doesn’t need to do much: hirre a tux. organise a party, give a toast… that’s about it.
However, the best man should be your fiance’s choice and it’s not really his mother’s business, it’s not her wedding. I say it’s time for him to tell his mom that sorry, I’m doing this my way.
Post # 4
I agree but not having a job how can he throw a party or rent a tux for that matter. He needs money to do all that… I dont mind paying for a tux but think it would be sad if we had to pay for my Fiance own party because his brother chooses not to have a job.. If my Fiance really wanted him to be it then it would be one thing but I think he should stand up to his Mom and say no too!
Post # 5
Darling Husband bestman had no License and no job, He is DH closest friend. His brother was one of he groomsmen
Post # 6
my fiance didn’t use either of his brothers they are both groomsmen, but he did make his 3 bestfriends Best MEN, why not have them both?