(Closed) Best Man BULLY

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It sound like Bridesmaid or Best Man needs to grow up. If he can’t handle the position then I think he is the one that needs to go. A failed relationship shouldn’t have to change your wedding party. you didn’t ask either one of them to be in the position based on thier relationship ( i hope) and niether should have to step down since there was a break up

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Well to be honest, you have to expect some sort of drama in a scenario like this.  You’re dealing with people who are HIGHLY emotional, have a damaged relationship between them, and at best change their minds daily on what they want for the future of their relationship.  Asking either of them to make any decisions on anything that puts the two of them in the same room is a really risky bet.

As for what you should do— well that is up to you but you have to prepared for some drama just from having them both attend the wedding, let alone in the same wedding party. I am not sure what choice I would make if it were my own wedding party (probably just tell both of them to cut the sh** and act like grown-ups but leave them in the wedding party) because that really comes down to their relationship with my fi and myself as a couple.  But I think you need to look at it for what it really is: a highly emotional, volatile interpersonal relationship which brings its own set of challenges no matter their role in your wedding.

Post # 5
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967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

The one thing I find bizarre was that he was planning on proposing to her at YOUR WEDDING….spotlight stealing much?

I think that’s what a lot of this is too….drama, spotlight lovers….i would tell them that you would like them BOTH to be in yoru wedding party but you would understand if they wanted to bow out…..BUT if they choose to stay in you expect them to behave like adults and be civil for the day…

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

this would be too much potential drama for me to handle – i say keep him in, take her out. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

She’s going to be in your bridal party, even though she cheated on your fiance’s best man?  I say keep him in and not her.

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