- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
My fiance and I are getting married on Memorial Day, three weeks from today. His best man lives across the country, and my fiance asked him to be his best man last summer. His Bridesmaid or Best Man is a fantastic guy, and everyone loves him. He was so excited and honored my fiance asked him. But right after that he ran into some legal trouble, and tonight he called to let us know he wouldn’t be allowed to leave his state for the wedding.
We aren’t angry with him whatsoever—it’s out of his hands. And we know he’s really upset he can’t make it. Everyone’s upset—he’s a great friend, and my fiance was really excited to have him up there as his Bridesmaid or Best Man. To compound the situation: my fiance has been married before, and his other best friend was his Bridesmaid or Best Man in that wedding. He would’ve been Bridesmaid or Best Man in this wedding, but he passed away 18 months ago. It’s a double whammy for my fiance.
I’m so sad for my guy, and I don’t know what to do to try to help him feel better. He’s said that it doesn’t ruin our day and he has what he needs (me) but I can see how painful it is for him. The programs are made, but we decided that we would keep him as Bridesmaid or Best Man even if they weren’t. He won’t be replaced. My fiance’s sister is his ‘best woman’ so she’ll stand next to him now. It’s just the emotional hole it leaves for us, especially my fiance.
Has anyone had this happen before? Is there anything special we can do to honor the missing Bridesmaid or Best Man, or something I (or our family and friends) can do to make my fiance feel a little better? He’s missing his two best men at our wedding now.