- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
My Future Brother-In-Law is awesome when it comes to hanging out and having a fun time, but in every other facet of friendship/brotherhood he is a major fail. Let me illustrate…
1. He was originally a groomsman because Fiance wanted his twin sister to be his “best woman”. Future Brother-In-Law (who is 26) litterally threw a hissy fit (pouting, complaining, feeling sorry for himself, putting down his sister, crying) because it was his “only chance to be a Best Man”. Fiance, being the thoughtful big brother that he is decided to make his sister AND brother “Best People”. Future Brother-In-Law was happy.
2. We asked Future Brother-In-Law to help us with invitations by writing our the wording for the invitation so that we could use his artistic writing style on the invitations. We were going to use a copy of his write-out to make a stamp or print out. I sent Future Brother-In-Law the wording 3 weeks in advance. Sent him reminders. 2 days before he was supposed to get it back to us he told us he had not had enough time and he did not do it. We were frustrated, but did not blame him and moved on with the back-up plan.
3. Fiance asked Future Brother-In-Law to go suit shopping with him durring my bridal shower. The morning of the bridal shower, Future Brother-In-Law asked if we could go to a matinee that afternoon (ie, during the shower). We told him no, we had the bridal shower and suit shopping. Future Brother-In-Law decided he was too “busy” and went home. He never offered another time to go suit shopping with Fiance and told us “don’t worry, I would rather find my suit on my own”. He was not supposed to be shopping for HIS suit, the purpose was to shop for his BROTHER’S wedding suit.
4. Future Brother-In-Law did not throw, or even attempt to plan, a bachelor party for Fiance. FI’s friend ended up doing it instead.
So far, my FI’s brother/”best man” has failed at everything we have asked him to do. Including the things he asked us if he could do. I feel like I should send him a personal e-mail letting him know that he is majorly letting down his brother. Fiance does not talk to him about it because it is just accepted in the family that Future Brother-In-Law does not do anything for anyone but himself. Should I let him know what his duties are so that he can acctually BE the “Best Man” or should I stay out and just let Future Brother-In-Law continue to let Fiance down? Has anyone else experienced this type of thing? What did you do?