- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
So FH best man has done nothing thus far. All we have heard from him is that HE wants to go to Canada for FH bachelor party, which FH has said no to. He asked me why we were spending the money on a wedding when we could just take the money and fly everyone (bridal party and close family) out to Vegas and put everyone up in a nice hotel for a weekend. And it wasn’t as a joke, he was serious. I am now hearing that he has been complaining that he had to ask for special time off for a cruise he is going on in a couple of weeks, and that he doesn’t have any time off left. Now, I don’t know if he earns time as he works or if he only gets a set number of days a year. So now I am hearing that he probably won’t be at the rehersal or rehersal dinner. He lives 1 1/2 hours away and works until 6. The rehersal starts at 6.
Prior to him becoming best man, FH offered it to to of his other friends. now with how these guys work is, the position is offered and they can accept or decline. They both decliend and it went to the current best man. Current best man was all excited and begged for it, and has done nothing since. Not come to any BBQ’s we have had with everyone. He complained that we never told him where to get the tux at. (Which I find suspicious because EVERY OTHER MALE BRIDAL PARTY MEMBER HAS GOTTEN FITTED FOR THEIRS!) and wasn’t going to do anything until FH called him directly and told him what to do, even though another groomsmen gave him all the information for sure. I emailed him the information after I heard this and he had the nerve to complain to me that FH hasn’t called and given him any info and how was he supposed to know. I don’t know about you girls but my FH has a hard time keeping on a wedding related task when it’s sitting right in front of him, let alone hime having to call and do anything.
So needless to say, FH and I have talked, we don’t want him out of the wedding, but one of the original groomsmen that was offered best man has stepped up and offered to help and do anything we need, and I would much perfer him as Bridesmaid or Best Man than the other. This is someone who needs to be there for the rehersal and who is going to be responsible for the rings before and during the ceremony. Current Bridesmaid or Best Man has shown no interest in anything and I think is just looking for the title.
This is the first time bridezilla has started to poke it’s nasty little head out. I’ve been pretty calm and collected but I’m now to the point that I have had enough and we are 75 days from the wedding. Am I overreacting, or is he being an a$$?