(Closed) Best man is getting ready to propose…

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: What would you do?
    Tell him DH mentioned it and work her comments into the conversation somehow : (28 votes)
    17 %
    Wait and see if he brings it up, then say something : (35 votes)
    21 %
    Don't say anything, and hope for the best : (100 votes)
    60 %
    Other (Please explain) : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2008

    I would mention it to him, casually and without pressure.  By small and simple, she could have just meant a solitaire with a simple band and not an overly intricate or blingy band.  If she likes elegant and understated, a simple solitaire could be perfect.  And for 10,000 he could get a 1 to about a 1.3 excellent cut/polish/symmetry stone.  I personally would consider a 1 carat solitare to be elegant and simple, and gorgeous!!  Maybe just check with him that he’s not going totally in the wrong direction with a multi-stone or halo or something that she may not like.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    “smaller” and “simpler” are very subjective terms. She could consider 1ct to be a “smaller” diamond which would be in that 10k range. I would not say anything. Like you said, he can afford it, and you don’t know the girl.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2026 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Honestly, my SO has taught me over the years to not meddle in things that don’t really have anything to do with me. I’d keep my mouth shut and just be supportive and congratulatory.

    Post # 7
    Member
    6207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    hopefully they have already discussed the type of ring she would like. After all, how many of us printed out pictures/sent e-mails as “hints” to our SO?

    Post # 8
    Member
    432 posts
    Helper bee

    oooo tricky one hmmmm, do you see his girlfriend often could you try and find out more details about what she would like but keep it stealth mode? lol

    then maybe after finding out for deffo what she likes you could bring it up in passing to her SO?

    p.s you’re so sweet trying to help her get a ring she will love 😀

    Post # 9
    Member
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    He could get a diamond that is less than a carat, but looking at near flawless clarity and D-E coloring and that would put him right at the $10K mark. I wouldn’t say anything personally.

    Post # 11
    Member
    3831 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’d relay the information to your fiancee to tell him. 

    Post # 12
    Member
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    If it comes up in conversation then give him your two cents.  If not don’t worry about it.  I’m sure he’ll be asking opinions from people at some point before buying if he doesn’t already know what she wants.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    Stock photo my ring.  Center stone is 1.02 carats.  Set cost a little under 10k.  I don’t think it’s blingy or huge, but thats me. 

    Like PP’s have mentioned, it could be a really good cut, color and clarity and smaller diamond for that price. 

    Post # 15
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    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    If he asks you for input, give it. Otherwise, I see no reason to inject your observations into his thought process. Honestly, 10k can be easily spent on a high quality stone of moderate size.  A 1.14 E, Ideal, VS2 round brilliant stone on blue nile is $9k and another $850 for a classic tiffany-style platinum setting, plus tax and you’ve spent the full budget. Higher budgets and simple tastes can definitely work together, so there’s really no reason to assume that he would need to deviate from her current jewelry style in order to buy her ring.

    Post # 16
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    3943 posts
    Honey bee

    How do you know they havent discussed what kind of ring she wants?

    It’s nice of you to be concerned, but I would stay out of it. Meddling in someones finances is never a good idea.

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