Post # 1
Ugh this guy is really starting to piss me off! A few months ago when Fiance was telling Bridesmaid or Best Man a few things about the wedding, Bridesmaid or Best Man says, “oh, well are you sure you still want to go through with this? It’s not too late to pull out”. He also left Fiance a voicemail saying that he booked the hotel, and “it’s too late, you’re going to be stuck now, there’s no turning back”. Seriously? I’m really tempted to put him in his place when he comes to town next week! He’s kind of a weird guy (sounds like Patrick from Sponge Bob), and got some illegal Mexican girl pregnant a few years ago (who also now has 2 more kids with 2 more men, collecting welfare, etc.), and has a 4 year old daughter full time. I’m not the type of person to say that someone is jealous when they’re being douchey, but I think he’s jealous because Fiance has his shit together. I really don’t feel comfortable with Bridesmaid or Best Man being a part of our wedding with his crappy attitude. Ugh. Anyway, thanks for letting me vent!
Post # 3
@MrsSweetT: Relax! Some guys like to tease. My Dad told me all the way down the aisle “It’s not too late to change your mind.”
Is some illegal Mexican girl really necessary to make your point?
Post # 4
Honestly, I feel think quite a few guys make this joke. They think it’s funny for some reason. I really don’t think he’s saying this because he’s jealous.
Post # 5
Just let it go. He probably thinks he’s being hilarious. But if you blow your top on him, he will keep asking your Fiance that, only he’ll be SERIOUS. If your Fiance has a problem with it, he can shut the guy down, but you need to stay out of it.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
@MrsSweetT: It sounds like you’ve got a lot more issues with him than just his comments to your Fiance. Have you tried talking to Fiance about your concerns?
I had to do this with Darling Husband when we were first planning our party, his original thought was to ask one of his oldest friends and his reason for wanting to ask him was that he’s kind of an “always the bridesmaid, never the bride” kind of person. His life is mediocre at best and especially at the time, his love life was pretty sad. So, Darling Husband thought it would make his friend feel happy to finally be the one who got “picked” for something.
Well, I think the guy is kind of a jerk, and early in our relationship the guy did some pretty inapproriate things in regards to me and Darling Husband had to kind of put him in his place and spell out that the way he was treating me was inappropriate. Not exactly the kind of guy I want standing next to my future husband as he devotes his life to mine.
Anyway, once I had explained my concerns to Darling Husband he understood and asked a different friend instead who ended up doing a great job.
Post # 8
- Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN
@MrsSweetT: Agree with PP, it is a guy thing
Post # 9
I think if he can’t play nice and pretend to be supportive of your marriage, he has no business being the best man at your wedding. If any of my friends even joked about me “turning back” before I got married, I’d tell them to go fuck themselves.
Post # 10
@MrsSweetT: I hate that “he’s being a boy” BS excuse. People seem to give jerks like this a pass because, Oh well, “Boys will be boys,” etc. Yes – once is a joke. Multiple times of recycling the same lame joke is being a dink on purpose.
Honestly – I would have your Fiance tell his friend that he’s the one with the illegitimate child, so yeah, he’s the one who’s stuck. Give it right back to him and he’ll shut up.
If this guy believes that your Fiance is stuck, why is he willing to stand beside Fiance on your wedding day? Ugh. That is annoying and I can see why you’re tired of it.
Post # 11
@MrsSweetT: I think it’s totally valid to feel pissed about this guy. Totally. I feel for you. It sucks that he’s in your wedding. This behavior is really unrespectful and stems from sexist notions about… I’m just going to stop here and send you this for some validation: http://offbeatbride.com/2012/05/this-is-your-last-chance-to-run
Really, I need to echo julies1949, it was not necessary to talk about some illegal Mexican girl.
Post # 12
@strawbabies: Seriuosly! Thank you. I don’t care if it’s “a guy thing”. It’s insanely disrespectful.
@julies1949: Honestly, it’s my post. If you don’t like it, too bad. No need to comment. I’m not going to change it, I’m not going to apologize. I have my feeling on Illegals, that’s a different topic.
Post # 13
@juliette.eliza: The only issues I have with Bridesmaid or Best Man is his comments to Fiance. I’ve only met him twice, once Fiance and I spent a few days visiting him. Everything was fine. I talked to Fiance and he agreed that his comments were unnecessary and knows that I’m going to open my mouth.
Post # 14
@GlitteryVegas: Yeah I totally agree. I plan on confronting him, and if he says he’s joking, I’ll that I can joke, too, and bring up how he screwed up his life.
Post # 16
It’s probably a “guy’s thing” but I think you should talk to your Fiance and let him know how you feel about this.
And… im mexican… so while i also dont agree of people traveling illegaly to other countries… that kinda stung, lol. I know you weren’t trying to offend anyone (and you didnt offend me, i just found it a little stingy), but i just wanted to say we’re not all like that. Then again i don’t even live in USA.
Hope you can sort that issue with your FI’s friend, good luck.