Post # 1
This past weekend my fiance and I lost our best man his brother unexpectedly to a heart attack he was only 25. My fiance and him were very close and would still like him to be apart of the weddding. We would like to have some kind of memorial for him but are unsure what and how to do it. We would greatly appreciate your input 🙂
Post # 4
*hugs* That must be tough.
Some random musings: I would leave his space as “Best Man” open for him and not have anyone “step in”. Have Fiance carry his own ring (or the ring bearer carry them) with a note in the program honoring him. Maybe try to make it a tribute to his life, so have a picture of him, and create a photo album of the pics of you guys with him (the 3 of you and the Fiance & his brother) and ask the guests to “share a memory” in this book. If he was married or engaged, give your bouquet to his wife and have your Fiance share a dance with the wife?
Post # 5
I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁
Post # 6
I think these are great ideas!!!
OP, I just wanted to say I am so, so sorry for your loss. A heart attack at 25??? I know it happens, but still shocking. If I may ask, did he have any underlying issues that could have caused?
Generally curious, and you can certainly tell me to mind my own damn business and I won’t be offended 🙂
Post # 7
@brittgrace13: I’m very sorry for your loss and your FI’s loss. I love everything that kay01
wrote. I would add that you might consider lighting a sturdy beautiful candle or lantern, or having a single lovely rose in a vase on a narrow table/tall stool, at his place as Best Man with you and your bridal party. This flame or living thing would act as a symbol of his life beside you as his photo placed there might be too difficult to bear emotionally during the ceremony itself. You might have your officiant say a few words about his brother in the context of the importance of family, love and support, and that he is present with you all in spirit in celebration of the day. Perhaps as people enter, in addition to your own welcome table with guestbook etc., you can have a small side table nearby dedicated to the brother with his photo and photos of you all together, and the memory book kay01 mentioned.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2016 - Beck Rec center
When my cousins had their wedding my great grandmother and uncle had passed they had flowers where they would have been seated.
Im truly sorry for your loss, maybe you can do a candle burning where he would have been standing. Take something like a shirt of his and rap it around the stems of the bountineer*sp so your hubby can have him close to his heart and the boquette.
Post # 9
Im so sorry for your loss! I agree with PP, just make sure his spot is left open and have something on the program for him. Sending you guys lots of ((((hugs)))) and prayers.
Post # 10
I’m so sorry for your loss and FI’s and all of his loved ones. My heart goes out to all of you.
You can do a memorial candle, they offer some with his name engraved as well.
Post # 11
This made me cry. I am so sorry for you and your Fiance. I love all the ideas that have been give, especially the space where he should have stood left open. It’s like he could stand there in spirit. My thoughts and prayers are with you!
Post # 13
I am so, so sorry to hear that. DH lost his 20 year old brother last September, and his death was agonizing to his family. We had a page in our programs dedicated to him and placed a photo and white roses in remembrance. I think it would be a great idea to leave the “best man” spot open, as PP said.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry for your lost.
How about having the officiant call a moment of silence in his memory during the ceremony. I also like the idea of bouquet charms and your Fiance might carry a picture of his brother hidden in his suit that day (just to have him close).
I agree having a picture of him displayed during the ceremony might be a bit difficult to bear, at the same time it will be your wedding and you want people to focus on the happiness of the ocassion.
Post # 15
Im so sorry …
Mr and I have both lost relatives VERY close to us this year – including his uncle who would have been a groomsman. We are including them in the program, and I have a double locket pin that will be pinned to my bouquet with a picture of each of them.
We’ve discussed mentioning them during the ceremony, but I don’t want to get super emotional in a sad way at that moment. Instead we will probably mention them in a thank you speech during the reception.
Post # 16
Thank you girls for all your kind words I will pass it on to my Fiance and his family. Were so lucky to have such a close nit family his sister is actually my Maid/Matron of Honor. I am trying to be as strong as I possibly can during this difficult time and it so nice to have everyones input especially from people who have gone through this. My Fiance is definitatly not going to be having a replacement since noone could ever replace his brother. I know the day of our wedding is going to be very hard on all of us so whatever we do it will be suttle and discussed with the family prior. But please keep the ideas coming they are helping tremediously 🙂 🙂
Post # 17
Aw, those are really sweet ideas.
To the OP, I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you…