(Closed) Best Man memorial

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
497 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@kay01: Aw, those are really sweet ideas.


To the OP, I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you…

Post # 19
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2022

thats terrible i’m so sorry :Hugs: I would say to do something to honor the fact that you and your fi loved him, dont make it a sad moment, im sure he was happy and excited for the both of you. During the Ceremony have something said along the lines of “we’d like to dedicate this ceremony to ___ ___ who couldn’t be here in body today, but is certainly here in spirit We Love You” and have a table at the reception with tea candles and a picture of him on it so Everyone knows hes not far from both of your minds. Hope this Helps

Post # 20
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You might also dedicate his favorite song to him at the reception.  If you want a tweak on simply encouraging those who knew him to get up and dance, and you have a lot of families there, you could maybe invite all siblings or “siblings in spirit” in particular out onto the dance floor for the song.  (I know it’s a bit corny, but my brother always dances with me for one swing song at every family wedding, and that’s my mom’s favorite moment I think.)

I would suggest you think about how you want to remember him: Privately?  Publicly?  With solemnity?  With laughter/joy?  Another emotion?  And then try to work that spirit into your remembrance.  For example, if you want private solemnity, have a quiet family moment before the ceremony together or carry something of his/his picture.  For public solemnity, a candle, blessing, or moment of silence at the ceremony.  For private celebration of his life, see if you can look through your things or his things to create a private memory book to surprise your husband with on the day (I’m thinking funny cards or letters, or sayings he had, quotes from favorite movies, as relates to life or marriage, whatever you can scrounge up – this is the hardest one to envision).  For a public celebration, a photobook with a request to share a memory, a dance or a speech at the reception.

Post # 21
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

brittgrace13 I know your wedding have passed but my Fiance lost his mother unexpected 8 mths ago to the same thing, so I bought him a photo cuff link to wear at our wedding and I will have a bouquet charm with a pic of my dad in. I haven’t decide what else I will be doing yet but I would like to also have something at the reception too.

Post # 22
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano\'s Humble

Ohhh, my goodness. I am terribly sorry for ya’lls loss. How shocking for everyone.

I think it’s awesome you want to honor him at your wedding. I was thinking, with everyone else’s ideas(and I didn’t read them all), but, did your Maid/Matron of Honor know him? If so, I’d not only leave his “spot” near FH open, but I’d have her walk down. Possibly the same shirt wrapped in his bout, maybe she can carry a single rose alongside her bouquet with a fabric swatch, so that he is still there? (Probably sounds dumb, sorry. But, it’s something I thought on the fly.)

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