(Closed) Best Man wants to wear dress blues?

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

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ashliek:  I thought I’d consult my husband on this one, he’s a Marine Corp veteran. He feels that it’s inappropriate to wear dress blues unless you are the groom or everyone is wearing them. He was even in a wedding where all of the groomsmen and the groom were Marines and still only the groom wore them. Not to mention, that yes, he’s going to be uncredibly uncomfortable and hot. The wedding is about you guys, not about honoring his service. Also, people stating that maybe he can’t afford to buy new attire. Really? It’s a white shirt and khakis. It’s not an Armani suit. If a Bridesmaid or Best Man couldn’t afford a matching sundress, would you let her wear a ball gown?

Post # 17
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Busy bee

 

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LoveBugBee:  Give me a break. No one thinks a damn thing of telling bridesmaids the exact dress they are supposed to wear. If a bridesmaid responded “no, I don’t want to wear the dress you picked out, or even something remotely in your color palette – I’d rather wear this other dress I have that’s the wrong color, and WAY fancier than your wedding dress, just because” everyone would (correctly) say that bridesmaid was being a lunatic.

This couple isn’t even asking him to go to the expensive of renting a tux or buying a formal suit. He’s supposed to wear khakis and a white shirt. Who doesn’t already have that in their wardrobe? It’s incredibly basic, and if for some reason he *didn’t* already have it in his wardrobe, it would be very inexpensive to get.

Whether or not he would be ‘too attention grabbing’ is beside the point. He’s a groomsman in someone else’s wedding. It would be asinine for him to be dressed more formally than the groom.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

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Sephiroth:  Untrue! I would never treat my bridal party like dress-up dolls and the people that do are whack. There are regular threads on the Bee regarding the topic and I stand by that opinion.

The uniform is very important to some service members, and I think that someone you love enough to ask to stand up for you should have some latitude. Especially if that person also belongs to a group of people that were willing to sacrifice their lives for our country if need be. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I say no way Jose! And I echo everything. PPs have said as to why

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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ashliek: its really your preference. My fiancé is wearing his dress whites for the ceremony(cg officer), and the rest of the groomsmen are wearing suits even though 2 of them are CG officers as well. I too was worried about them being too hot. dress uniforms are very stuffy. Just ask him to wear khakis for the ceremony and change for the reception if it is important to him to wear his uniform. im sure he won’t mind and will thank you because he won’t be too hot. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Every time it read the title I see “best man want to wear a blue dress”, not dress blues. The image is funny, dress blues are better than blue dress but still not appropriate.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The groomsmen should never be dressed more formally than the groom. But if your Fiance is wearing his dress uniform to the reception, I would consider letting the best man wear his. But the best man shouldn’t be in his dress uniform at the ceremony if your Fiance isn’t wearing his. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I think it would be reasonable to ask him to dress the same as your groom- khakis for the ceremony and dress blues at the reception BUT I’d probably leave it up to my fiancé to have the final say. I’m not the sort to be too fussed about that kind of thing though.

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