(Closed) Best Man's Date Drama–Just Ranting

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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futuremrsrslett :  You’re strangely invested in his sex life. If they were “romantic” it would be ok, but because they’re platonic friends, it’s annoying? Ask yourself how that makes sense. Also why didn’t you just do a regular sweetheart table? What was the idea behind doing the modified one?

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Is it too late to change the plan and put Maid/Matron of Honor and her guy and best friend and his date elsewhere? If pictures are your concern that would be the best bet. But, like other bees have mentioned since he wasn’t with someone already ANY girl would be a girl you don’t know. So nothing has really changed. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I guess I was waiting for the punchline.. like, “AND HE’S BRINGING FI’S EX!” You said the guy is perpetually single, invite him +1, and get upset when he brings a “random”. Who did you expect him to bring?

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

maybe she’s awesome, since seemingly the best man is awesome

you were kinda asking for this one… did you expect him to bring someone you know super well? or a find the love of his life in spite of being perpetually single, just in time to have her sitting at your head table?

4 weeks to go, you can still change the seating arrangements you know…

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Soooo he couldn’t bring someone he just met, and he can’t bring a platonic friend…did you want him to bring his mom?

Post # 21
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Busy bee

Look on the bright side, if it was actually a romantic interest of his coming and if it goes wrong somehow later, he wouldn’t ever want to see your wedding pictures anymore! At least it’s a platonic friend which is a much safer bet in case anything happens. 

At one of my cousins’ wedding, the groom’s brother brought his girlfriend and she appeared in all the family pictures, he had been dating the girl for ten years and we all knew her well. They broke up a few months later and he married someone else afterward. I’m not sure what happened to the family pictures with the ex in lol, probably stowed away where nobody will ever see again.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Maybe he and his gal pal will decide at your wedding that they actually are perfect for each other. Then she won’t be a random anymore!

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper

I realize you’re just venting on here over something you don’t want to make a big deal out of otherwise- I’ve done that too 🙂

But don’t worry about pics- if she’s not close to you and the groom, not only won’t she expect to be in your wedding photos, she’d probably feel awkward being in them. If you want, you can have your photog take one pic of Bridesmaid or Best Man with his date/ friend, and otherwise not include her in pics. 

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee

I actually think, in the end, you’re going to be grateful that he brought a platonic friend, and not some girl he just started dating who you may never see again in your life. At least they probably won’t get into a weird fight or do any of the potentially annoying things a new couple would do.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Don’t worry, you will spend nearly no time at all sitting down at that table anyway.  And your photographer will probably focus in on you and your husband (shoot, tell him to if it’s important to you).  I’m pretty sure we could’ve had Hannibal Lecter at our table and I wouldn’t have minded, as long as he stuck to the buffet.

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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jennmariee :  ahahaha, this is the best comment I’ve ever seen on the Bee.

Post # 30
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Riverview at Wicomico Shores

I appreciate the need to rant, and I hope getting out your frustrations has helped. I’m personally pretty anxious around new people and I hate small talk, so I would get ruffled about it too. I had/have a similar situation with the best man, although he is bringing a woman he’s just started dating.  The wedding day will still be great, and as Fiance and I keep reminding ourselves, we’ll be just as married no matter what else happens.

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