(Closed) Best Marriage Advice You’ve Ever Gotten

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

lots of patience

dont expect too much, or your partner to do everything as you want it

 

comunication (talk to each other,share things)

 

plan togheter

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Don’t fight about petty stuff

If you want your guy to do something, ask him ( cleaning…)

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I do not have any advices (I’m not married) but I do have stats 🙂

  • Higher education = lower divorce rates
  • the more you wait = lower divorce rates
  • living together before wedding = higher divorce rates
  • look at your parents: if both from divorced parents = higer divorce rates

that’s all I can remember for now… note that these are just trends and not predictors!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My grandfather told me that he had a huge fight with my grandmother when they were really young and very newly married. He packed a suitcase and went to his parents’ house, hoping to spend the night. His own father turned him away and said “Go home to your wife and make it right.” They went on to have seven kids (my dad was the firstborn) and a long, happy marriage. Running from your problems will solve nothing and only make it worse.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Yup. I got “Don’t try to have the perfect marriage.” 

And I got “Never go to sleep angry.”

I also realize that many people expect marriage to fix all of their problems. It doesn’t. People go into marriage with expectations of what their Fiance should/will change once you’re married, and it doesn’t happen that way at all! Love ’em when you marry ’em, and don’t expect them to change a darn thing about themselves just because they married you. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

From a pair of psychology professor friends, while celebrating our engagement over dinner:

 

“It isn’t the mountain ahead that wears you out; it’s the grain of sand in your shoe.”

— Robert W. Service

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Fung: I actually kind of disagree with that second piece of advice… I would think that people who made mistakes, and are now having to live with them, might actually have quite a good persepctive, giving them the ability to give you advice telling you to not do what they did! (And especially, HOW to not make the same mistakes they did!)

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

When I think of marriage / relationship advice I always remember something from the show Friends…

Friends – The One Where Joey Tells Rachel

Monica : I don’t believe in soul-mates either.

Chandler : You don’t?

Monica : No. I don’t think you and I were destined to end up together. I think that, we fell in love and work hard at our relationship. Some days we work *really* hard.

It isn’t all sunshine and butterflies. Sometimes you have to deal with the not so pleasant parts of being in a relationship. A relationship is dynamic and requires effort. But it’s so worth it. You get what you put into it.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

This is my favorite! It was read at our wedding and I was looking at all the older people and they were all nodding theirbreads.

Love is a temporary madness.

It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision.

You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion.

That is just being in love which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Here is the best I have ever given. I even saved it on my notepad as Quotes by (my name.) 

You’re fighting a losing battle. Because you are arguing with the one person you are suppose to be working with through life’s challenges, together! You have to remember, you are on the same team! Don’t let pride take you over. Pride doesn’t make you right in the arguement, it only makes you weak as a team. If you really want to win, stop fighting a losing battle no matter who started it & figure out what is going to make it work. Because you can only win if you both make it together, not by figuring out who is wrong or right.

This is for everyone married including myself. Its a very nice quote to live by in a marriage if you ask me.

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