(Closed) Best men??? Could've fooled me!

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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7680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t like the idea of telling guys (or girls) they need to spend $400 ($600 suit minus the $200 you gave them) to be in your wedding. But, and this is the big but, they agreed to it. It’s not right for them to agree, and then turn around later and see they’re not paying after all. I’d say ok then, give us back the $200 and we’ll hire matching suits for you instead. A hire is around $200 isn’t it? So you save two lots of $400.

I have a little more sympathy with the guys for the bucks’ weekend. Traditionally, a bucks’ or hens’ night is a single night out. If your fiance wanted a whole weekend, then he should be contributing. But if the guys weren’t contributing at all, probably your fiance should have changed his plans. If the best man wants to save money to travel, that’s his choice.

Post # 4
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5189 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m of the belief that if you are throwing an event for yourself, then your main concern should be yourself. It’s not your place as the bride to say what your fiances friends should be more focused on. If you insist on them wearing expensive things (I think several hundred dollars is unreasonable btw) then it should be coming out of your pocket, not theirs. It may annoy you and your fiancé that they aren’t contributing more but they’re not the ones who are planning your wedding. Idk maybe I’m just biased because I’m on the opposite end right now. My man’s best friend is marrying a girl who is demanding top of the line everything from the bridal party but not offering to Help pay for any of it. So we’re being forced (yes, best friend since childhood equals forced, we can’t just back out of the wedding) to spend more money on their wedding than our own.

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