Post # 1
Okay so there have been some issues with my fiance’s best men. To start off FH is wearing a beautiful Armani suit which looks a million dollars. When we all went to see him in it it was decided that we were going to give them $200 towards buying a suit. They both had 3 weddings coming up and were happy with that.
Come to now and my FH had to organise his own bucks weekend (one of them gave him $250 towards it), and now we are looking at buying suits for them both… at $600 each!!! One of them said he was happy to put in money for it. Which I wouldn’t expect them to pay all of it, just offer to come up with some. But the best man is saying how poor he is although he is saving to go see a girl he has just started a relationship with OS. So instead of FH feeling like his best friends of 15 years + are there for him he just feels alone.
Am I being a bridezilla when it comes to this? FH has said, lets just suck it up, we’re going to be looking at the photos for the rest of our lives. So in a way he’s right, but in another way I want to shake them and say – this is your best friend that’s getting married, do you know what he would do for you if the role was reversed????
Has anyone else been through something similar?
Post # 3
I don’t like the idea of telling guys (or girls) they need to spend $400 ($600 suit minus the $200 you gave them) to be in your wedding. But, and this is the big but, they agreed to it. It’s not right for them to agree, and then turn around later and see they’re not paying after all. I’d say ok then, give us back the $200 and we’ll hire matching suits for you instead. A hire is around $200 isn’t it? So you save two lots of $400.
I have a little more sympathy with the guys for the bucks’ weekend. Traditionally, a bucks’ or hens’ night is a single night out. If your fiance wanted a whole weekend, then he should be contributing. But if the guys weren’t contributing at all, probably your fiance should have changed his plans. If the best man wants to save money to travel, that’s his choice.
Post # 4
I’m of the belief that if you are throwing an event for yourself, then your main concern should be yourself. It’s not your place as the bride to say what your fiances friends should be more focused on. If you insist on them wearing expensive things (I think several hundred dollars is unreasonable btw) then it should be coming out of your pocket, not theirs. It may annoy you and your fiancé that they aren’t contributing more but they’re not the ones who are planning your wedding. Idk maybe I’m just biased because I’m on the opposite end right now. My man’s best friend is marrying a girl who is demanding top of the line everything from the bridal party but not offering to Help pay for any of it. So we’re being forced (yes, best friend since childhood equals forced, we can’t just back out of the wedding) to spend more money on their wedding than our own.
Post # 5
I would never expect them to pay $600 for a suit to be in our wedding 🙂 That is OTT! Like I said I felt bad they were going to buy another suit for the weddings they had, and offered them $200 each towards their purchases. We did look at hire suits but one of the groomsmen is a really odd shape so anything we tried on, the tailoring they do – sleeves and trouser legs – wouldn’t have been enough. I guess I expect people to do what they say they’re going to. So when they said they would buy a suit and then didn’t – that’s what I’m pissed off with. Now that we are buying the suits… they are going to be exactly how we want them 🙂