Post # 1
First I should thank everyone ahead of time for answering my posts! I"ve been posting more and more as we approach the big day (0nly 4 days left!).
We have two best men and two maids of honor. I’d love for all of them to give a speech at the reception but I"m wondering if that would take too much time? Would people get restless (we have 80 guests, close friends and family). In addition my father will also be giving a speech. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
I think that’s great! Its YOUR wedding and people want to give you words of wisdom and best wishes and I think it shows your guests how much other people care about you guys as well 🙂
Post # 4
I agree– sounds fun! Besides, I understand your concern for peoples’ feelings (I’m a ridiculous people-pleaser), but it’s your wedding, and if you want five toast then by golly, you’d better have five toasts :p
However, if the idea of people getting bored really bugs you (and really, they shouldn’t be), have you considered having toasts at your rehearsal dinner (if you’re having one)?
Post # 5
oh – how exciting?
Honestly, ppl love speeches, just not overly long ones. At my friend’s wedding, 3 girls and 1 guy made a speech and the room was pretty quiet for the whole time. So I say – it’s your wedding and if you want everyone to speak …it shoudl happen! 🙂
Best of Lucckkkk!!!
Post # 6
Let them all do speaches. If you are concerned by how long it will take, ask them to keep it to 3 minutes or less. Also, if they do the speaches during dinner they can eat at the same time and won’t be board.
Post # 7
We are in a similar situation. My father is giving a welcome speech before dinner, and then our 2 matrons of honor and 2 best men are giving short toasts after dinner. We are asking everyone to keep their toasts short and sweet and are making sure the guests know there will be 4 toasts so that they don’t worry it will drag on all night with speaker after speaker. 🙂 Best wishes!
Post # 8
Why not let them all give speeches, but break them up throughout the evening? Let 2 speak at the beginning of the night, and then two more towards the end. That way eveyone gets to say their part, but no one gets bogged down by thirty straight minutes of toasting. I went to a wedding recently where that happened, and I’ll admit – it was tedious. Especially when the unplanned toasters started in.
Also, are your parents speaking, too? I’d let them toast at the prime time, to thank everyone for coming and express their love and gratitude, then, like I said, space everyone else out.