(Closed) Best Men/Maids of Honor: too many?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
2 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think that’s great! Its YOUR wedding and people want to give you words of wisdom and best wishes and I think it shows your guests how much other people care about you guys as well 🙂

Post # 4
27 posts
  • Wedding: September 2009

I agree– sounds fun!  Besides, I understand your concern for peoples’ feelings (I’m a ridiculous people-pleaser), but it’s your wedding, and if you want five toast then by golly, you’d better have five toasts :p

However, if the idea of people getting bored really bugs you (and really, they shouldn’t be), have you considered having toasts at your rehearsal dinner (if you’re having one)?

Post # 5
278 posts
Helper bee

oh – how exciting?

 Honestly, ppl love speeches, just not overly long ones.  At my friend’s wedding, 3 girls and 1 guy made a speech and the room was pretty quiet for the whole time.  So I say – it’s your wedding and if you want everyone to speak  …it shoudl happen!  🙂

Best of Lucckkkk!!!

Post # 6
236 posts
Helper bee

Let them all do speaches.  If you are concerned by how long it will take, ask them to keep it to 3 minutes or less. Also, if they do the speaches during dinner they can eat at the same time and won’t be board.

Post # 7
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

We are in a similar situation.  My father is giving a welcome speech before dinner, and then our 2 matrons of honor and 2 best men are giving short toasts after dinner.  We are asking everyone to keep their toasts short and sweet and are making sure the guests know there will be 4 toasts so that they don’t worry it will drag on all night with speaker after speaker.  🙂  Best wishes!

Post # 8
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Why not let them all give speeches, but break them up throughout the evening? Let 2 speak at the beginning of the night, and then two more towards the end. That way eveyone gets to say their part, but no one gets bogged down by thirty straight minutes of toasting. I went to a wedding recently where that happened, and I’ll admit – it was tedious. Especially when the unplanned toasters started in.

Also, are your parents speaking, too? I’d let them toast at the prime time, to thank everyone for coming and express their love and gratitude, then, like I said, space everyone else out. 

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