Post # 1
So I have a friend who is about to have her second baby, first one is about 18 months old and mom is going it alone, neither baby daddy is in the picture. She has had a couple showers so I’m pretty sure she is good on clothes and diapers and such for baby. But some of us were trying to plan on ways to help out after they get home from the hoapital. What stuff did you really want after you.got home? We figure meals for her, but not really sure the best way to do it, packed and ready to.cook? Or bringing a hot meal ready to eat at dinner time.I know a few people are already planning on getting the house all cleaned for her and there are several who baby sit a lot too. So I’m trying to help coordinate food and stuff to make mom’s life easier with two little babies at home.
Post # 3
Bring her pre-cooked frozen food. Lasagna in foil pans — she can throw it in the oven and BAM. Dinner is ready. Bring different varieties. Know what she likes and doesn’t like. Quick-make food is essential because really, she’s going to be tired as hell and may resort to eating dry cereal if she was hungry enough.
If you want to bring a hot meal for dinner too, that’s cool of you. But pre-made pre-cooked frozen dinners that are heat and eat will do her a lot of good for a long time. Slap on some re-heating instructions too. It could be simple. (Put in <x> degree oven for <x> minutes.)
Post # 4
A fun thing to do if you are bringing frozen meals is to place something heavy into a little box and top with a gift card for a local takeout place. Wrap it in foil as if it were a casserole.
You could also make a little binder with a photo album and fill each plastic sleeve with a gift card and the menu for that restauarant.
Post # 5
I agree frozen ready to cook meals but remember a few items.
She is really mostly feeding herself so dont do huge portions. Think personal sizes. So two servings of soup in one container or just 5 enchiladas, not a whole pan of them.
And freezer space may be a problem so another idea is to arrange to drop of 2 meals once a week for a couple of weeks. Then she can either put them directly in the fridge to be eaten or frozen depending on her desire/space
You could also tell her not to worry about dinners on Sundays for a month and arrange to have either delivery to her door or you drop something off. Your choice. And then she can so what she likes with leftovers.
Post # 6
I used the following cookbooks to make freezer foods for my Mommy friends– Dont Panic more Dinner’s in the Freezer and Frozen Assets Lite and Easy. But in her case, don’t just bring it now, make sure you bring food 3, 6, 9 months from now. Everyone rushes in at the beginning. Try to remember that she’ll need your help months from now too!
I know one friend about 4 weeks after the baby needed breastfeeding supplies like breast pads and lanolin, but just couldn’t find the time to buy/order it. So in a month or so, bring over some supplies.
Offer her an afternoon of your time. tell her you are coming over Saturday from 11-3 to help her. Go over and do the dishes, clean the bathroom, fold some laundry, watch the kids so she can take a shower. If she doesn’t want/need your help, take the 18 mo out of the house for a quick outing to the park (or if you have community center nearby, sign her up for swim class and be responsible for taking her every week. Gets her out of the house and tires her out).
Post # 7
I agree with the above: food!
Post # 8
I disagree– hot meals at dinner time! And snacks for a few days. Seems like every time I tried to do anything in the kitchen she would start to scream.
Post # 9
Yup, hot meal at dinner time, sandwiches for the fridge for lunch the next day, her favorite bottled beverage, and when you come over ask her if you can hold the baby while she takes a shower.
Post # 10
Food, & maybe run errands for her? Like grocery shopping, dropping bills/payments off, etc. Those small things will probably help her out a lot.
Post # 11
I would order her her favorite take out so she has food hot and ready.
Post # 12
Fresh Food that is ready to eat! and I agree with running errands or watching the baby for a bit so she can have some time to get her nails or hair done or even just to take a nice, long hot bath.
Post # 13
If you can, I 2nd the plans for the 18 month old… Depending on how the kid is with you. It will help mom be alone with newborn and wear out the older one. And definitely keep up on the “gift”, she’ll need help months from now too.
Post # 14
Food is a great choice. I would have loved that.
When you go around just put some washing on or do the dishes or vacuum the floors.
I did this for my sister. She was saying no I’m ok but I know how hard it is to get those things done. She told me latter how helpful that was because if you ask they will usually say NO!
Post # 15
I don’t know if you have this in your area, but I had a friend who was injured and bedridden for awhile. A bunch of people got together and got her a big gift card for TakeOut Taxi. It’s a program that works with restaurants and will deliver the food straight to your door. It was a lifesaver for her and let her choose whatever she wanted.
The one around here has both local restaurants and big chains like PF Changs, Chili’s, & Ihop.
Post # 16
Dinner seems to be everyone else’s go-to, so to do something different I’d try to bring some healthy, no-fuss snacks she can just pull out of the refrigerator as needed (cut veggies and hummus or yogurt dip with chopped green herbs, cut fruit/fruit salad, cheese cubes, etc.). Or breakfast (homemade muffins, cinnamon rolls, or banana bread).