Post # 1
We get married this July and are planning to TTC right away after, but Im wondering if we should delay a bit?
We live in the midwest so we get 4 seaons – winter, spring, summer fall.
Our Kindergarten cutoff is Aug 1st and I dont want to be super pregnant all summer so we would want to deliver no later than July or be earlier in pregnancy during summer. I also dont want to be super pregnant in the dead of winter (that cold air hurts + flu seaon)
Whens the best time of year to have a baby and why?
Post # 2
I believe that answer would be different for everyone depending upon many factors. Is there a better time of year at work for you or your hubs to take leave with a new baby? Do you typically travel for holidays? Do you have to travel far to your birthing center/hospital?
I’m sure you know that you may not have much control over when you conceive and when your baby will be born.
Post # 3
I don’t think there is a best time and I wouldn’t delay hoping to give birth within a small window as you can’t predict when you will conceive!
Post # 4
I think insurance is more important than any of these factors. I would rather get pregnant and deliver all in the same year personally… than to start paying a deductible/OOP… then have to start over again for renewing year. But that is just me… rich or poor THAT would be most ideal being the frugal person that I am.
So… get pregnant worst case AS EARLY AS December before prenatal checkups begin… then getting pregnant as late as March-ish? But… can’t control things that easily so.
We get 4 seasons too. But in the southeast… weather is bipolar. Could be frigid or blazing hot in the middle of winter.
Post # 5
Even if you conceive exactly as planned, there’s no way of knowing if your baby will be born months early or three weeks late. I wouldn’t plan around possible due dates because there’s no way to control them. If you have a specific event that’s very important to you, like a sibling’s wedding, you could always skip TTC for a month or two in order to (hopefully) delay giving birth during their event, but otherwise you really should focus on whether you feel ready to TTC in all areas of your life.
Post # 6
It is absurd to think you can control birth date to that extent. You may or may not conceive right away, you may have a preemie or go late. Too many variables, IMO, to try to plan a season. Besides, our children were born in April and August. The August baby was just under the deadline for starting Kindergarten and is young for his grade, but is doing great. And I teach, and it is REALLY common now for kids to turn 6 in the fall/winter in Kindergarten. They’re much stricter on dates now than they used to be.
As for being hugely pregnant, it isn’t comfortable regardless of when you go through it. But TTC may take a while if you only try during certain months in the hopes of getting the “right” birth date.
Post # 7
konablend : Hadnt considered that! Good thing to think about for sure.
zzar45 : I am aware. We both have previous children and conceived quickly in the past but that gives us zero gaurantees for this one we know. We assume it would happen somewhat quickly but accepting it may not and it is what it is.
beethree : Both our slower seasons are winter so that could help. Plus his vacation time resets in Januray and mine is rolling so maybe something to consider there. I get paid maternity leave but he will use some vacation time as he works for a smaller company with no paternity leave.
Post # 8
Honestly, there are pros and cons to all. I also live in the midwest where we have really bad winters. For that reason, we started trying within the window for a summer baby, but would have continued if we hadn’t gotten pregnant. We are due in mid-july with this baby. My son is an August baby.
I have not found much issue being pregnant in the summer. I was largely pregnant the entire summer with my son. The majority of the day i’m inside (working, at home, etc) so it’s air conditioned. If I was outside, I was wearing summer clothes so it’s not like I was overheating any more than normal.
Summer babies have been nice for many reasons for us, I get my maternity leave this time and am able to be home with my son for half of his summer break, I’ll have decent weather my entire leave, I am avoiding the frigid cold with a newborn (she’ll be much older by the time we have really cold temps). We also managed to have all our prenatal appointments and will have our birth in one plan year for insurance so that’s another perk.
Post # 10
mel2 : when you can! Honestly trying to overplan it will just set you up for frustration.
That said I would love a spring or fall baby. Something with mild weather so I can be outside a lot. I had a summer baby and while we went out a fair bit a lot of the time it was just too hot for her to be outside safely for more than a few minutes. Also timing it so that you don’t straddle an insurance plan year is wise – my girlfriend had to pay her deductible twice since she gave birth in one plan year, but was still in the hospital when it reset. Double whammy!
Post # 11
You get what you’re given with timings. I didn’t really want a January baby, but after 2.5 years of trying I was just focused on getting a baby. My son was born at the end of Jan. I then went and had another winter baby with my daughter coming early Feb (they had the same Jan due date)
personally I liked having a winter baby. Spring was coming as we were more mobile which was nice mel2 :
Post # 12
- Wedding: June 2019 - Turkey
If you already have children, you should kinda know it better.
Post # 13
I had a November baby which sucked cause Flu season was just rearing up and the long midwestern winter was just beginning. But, my daughter is now reaching an age (almost 5 months) where it’s a lot easier to take her out places just as the weather is becoming humane again, so that’s a pro. I think summer will be a lot more fun with a 7-9 month old than a newborn.
As pp have said it’s fine to have a goal in mind but also be ready to throw your plans out the window if ttc doesn’t go according to your playbook!
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard
I had my baby in April so I was pretty much pregnant during the last month of summer, fall, winter, and part of spring. I think I was actually most comfortable during the fall and winter months honestly. Our baby was not planned but I feel pretty lucky that she was born when she was. I was able to go home with her and it wasn’t too hot yet.
Post # 15
I had my son in May, and it was perfect for me. The weather was nice enough already that it made things easier with the baby and getting out, and I didn’t have to be hugely pregnant through the hot summer months.