Post # 1
Hi! I haven’t been on this site for a while and have been in no rush to wedding plan. However, I feel like I probably should start planning something. And that starts with picking a date. I’m a 2L in law school. Got engaged this past October. Will graduate in May 2014. And will take the July 2014 Bar. Any law school ladies out there have advice on the best time to get married? Spring break 3L year? I will only have one week off for spring break. Winter break 3L year (probably impossible since that’s less than a year from now)? Wait until after the Bar (sometime in late September)?
I will be a summer associate this summer at a BigLaw firm and will hopefully get an offer to go back there full time after I graduate. But I don’t know when first year associates start (September, November)? So if I plan for late summer 2014, my worry is that I will not focus enough on Bar prep and will fail or will somehow end up having to take time off from work before I even start the job or as soon as a start. Both don’t seem like great options!
Other info: I’ll be living and planning in the same city so I won’t have to plan a wedding across the country. I also won’t be doing too much myself since I don’t have the time and am not too crafty.
So any advice on when I should set the date?
Post # 3
I probably posted this in the wrong board but now I’m not sure where to move it too…or even how to move it! lol
Post # 4
@L-girl: Maybe the college board? I’m sure there are law students over there!
Post # 5
Do not, do not, do not under any circumstances try to plan a wedding and study for the bar exam at the same time. You will go completely bananas. I’m getting chills just contemplating it! Lol.
Spring break of your 3L year is probably your best bet. I remember that semester being pretty mellow, and you will get to avoid being distracted by wedding details during finals time… Which is why I wouldn’t try to pull it off over winter break. Your 3L spring will probably mostly be bar electives and is sort of the calm before the storm.
Good luck! 🙂
ETA: I wouldn’t plan for a late summer wedding, either, not just because of the bar but also because being a first year associate in Big Law will, from what I’ve heard, take up all of your time and energy. You might not be able to take time off for vendor meetings or a honeymoon… And you don’t want to be checking your Blackberry for urgent messages on your wedding day, you know? Get it all over with before bar study and before that first super intense year as an associate.
Post # 6
If I had it to do over again, I’d have gotten married a week after graduation and taken the rest of May off for a kick-ass honeymoon. I didn’t really start studying for the bar until my bar review course started in June anyway.
Post # 7
Thanks for your replies! Actually I talked it over at school today and the overwhelming choice was the weekend after graduation. I’m going to start looking for venues next month. Hopefully I’ll be able to book something quickly. I know May is a busy month for weddings but I’ll be ok if I book my April right….?
Post # 8
I’m a 3L. I just got married during winter break and it was perfect. I will graduate with my new name on my certificate, and there was plenty time off from school to do last-minute wedding stuff the few weeks before. We also had a week for the honeymoon. I wouldn’t suggest trying to do it during spring break. That would be way too hectic. I think you could do it during winter break next year. It’s not THAT much less than a year away. Wedding planning only takes as long as you want it to.
Post # 9
I would do after graduation. Spring break is too short, and winter break would be tough, especially considering you’d have to take a break from planning to study for exams, and then get married just weeks later. That said, when you hire a wedding planner, pretty much all things are possible…they can work in any timeframe.
Post # 10
3L year, before you start bar prepping. Depending on how comfortable you are with exams, either before or after graduation. If you can take enough classes so that your last semester is a full time internship, even better. But, get it done before you bar prep.
Post # 11
I think Winter break or Spring break are your best bets. 3L year was pretty chill for me. And it should be for you if you already have your job offer. Bar prep doesn’t start until after you graduate so honestly your 3L year will probably be the least busy you’ll be for the next 5+ years of your life. Definitely do NOT plan it for right after the bar because the combination of bar prep + wedding planning would make you want to shoot ourself.
Post # 12
Your plan about getting married after graduation sounds good with regard to your vacation (I had lots of friends that took vacations in between bar review/finals and one who even skipped the whole first week of bar review), however do you really want to be in the most stressful days leading up to the wedding AND finals? Seems like maybe that is unavoidable in the winter too, so maybe think about what your schedule will be. I took two internship type classes my last semester so I only had three finals, but if you plan on having a full class load (not the worst strategy for bar prep), do you want to take 5 finals and be nailing down all the details for your wedding?
I would also never ever get married during that June/July studying for the bar *shudder*. It was all I could do to feed myself, shower, and not go crazy. I had a friend get married the weekend before spring break and she thought it was a great balance.
All of this is just my opinion, I just graduated in May and passed the bar and haven’t planned a wedding yet 🙂
Congratulations and good luck with the rest of school!
Post # 13
I’m currently a 3L. At least for us, Bar prep starts 4 days after graduation- which wouldn’t be enough time for a wedding and a honeymoon, maybe that’s a CA thing? I would lean towards Spring break- that way you could still have a 1 week honeymoon. And there are always last minute details and dealing with that during finals would be terrible. Regardless of when you have the wedding, you should be selecting a venue NOW and getting your main vendors this semster. You won’t have time to plan your wedding this summer while working for a big law internship- that’s a summer long job interview!
I have heard that one of the most common reasons why people fail the bar is because they were planing a wedding at the same time, so I would avoid that like the plague.
Good luck! I don’t see too many law school bees on here!<3
Post # 13
Just wanted to send an update. I haven’t logged into this site in over a year so when I logged in this week I saw that I had made this post. My wedding will be the first weekend in September. I felt like after finals would have been too rushed. And the venue I wanted was not available over spring break. This way I have a month after the Bar to do all of the last minute wedding stuff and to have my bridal shower. We’ll take a long honeymoon after the wedding (basically half of september) and then I’ll still have close to a month after we get back before I actually start work (end of October). It’s been a crazy semester for sure trying to juggle all of my school activities and wedding planning but I’m glad that I’m not trying to cram the wedding in before the Bar.
Thanks for all the advice! Now that the wedding is only a few months away I will be around on this site more often. haha
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - White Horse Inn
Im getting married in June, Graduated law school May 2013 but didnt want to take the July Bar because of …. well reasons. So my Fiance proposed in July right before the bar would have been!
We started planning in October. When January came around we still had so much to do so I didnt start studying until around January 20th after we booked our vendors. My FI’s mom hired a wedding planner so I could focus on the bar so that helped A LOT, but then again, I still have no clue if I passed. Even with a planner thinking about the wedding was just so tempting. I couldnt focus 100% on studying but I did my best, up until about two weeks before the bar when I realized how fast the wedding was approaching.
To make life worse I was a “victim” of the examsoft glitch and could hardly type because of the software for 1/4 of the written portion!! When I told my Fiance he said dont worry, just keep trying your best – we are getting married whether or not you pass this time!
I am not excited to get the CA Bar Exam results on May 16th – only 3 weeks before the wedding and to make it worse its the friday night my vegas bachelorette party begins! Its awful timing! If I pass I could get too drunk celebrating, If I fail I could get too drunk to forget – such a lose lose situation. I need my girls to try to NOT let me find out!
Anyone else dealing with bar results being released so close to their wedding? If I fail I dont want everyone asking how I did at the wedding 🙁