Post # 1
My fiance’s brother’s graduation is the Friday evening before our wedding. If we move our rehearsal dinner to Thursday do you bees think that our wedding party will have everything still fresh in their minds for our wedding? Having it on Thursday means that we have to make our wedding party stay up later, eat later, rehearse later. And the wedding party who came from out of town needs to pay an extra night at a hotel.
It seems a lot more easier to change our wedding date a week earlier. Instead of 6-12-10 it would be 6-05-10. There would be no graduation to worry about. This way we can have the rehearsal dinner on a Friday.
Nothing has been booked that we can’t change. The invitations and Save-The-Date Cards have not been mailed yet..
What do you think I should do? What would you bees do in this case?
Post # 3
FI’s brothers Highschool graduation.
Post # 4
I was going to say the Thursday rehearsal is fine, they will remember, but when you mentioned guests would have to stay another night, just go the week earlier. Plus your Future Brother-In-Law can have his graduation day all to himself.
Post # 5
I don’t think a Thursday rehearsal is a problem, but I voted for moving the wedding if you can. The way you speak about it, it doesn’t seem like a big deal, and will make the whole weekend about you and then the following all about his brother. A graduation and a wedding on the same weekend just seems stressful.
Post # 6
My Fiance and I can’t agree upon this date. The hall has the date of 6-05-10 still available. I don’t want to be difficult with him but changing the date has a lot of benefits.
If we change the date:
1.We can have the rehearsal on a Friday
2.The Out of Town guest only have to stay a couple of nights rather than three nights which would save them money. There are only two Out of Town groomsmen in our wedding.
3.The date is still available to change with the hall.
4.If we have the rehearsal on a Friday rather than a Thursday this will be fresh in the wedding partys mind…
5.We don’t have to stay up late on Thursday as some of us need to be at work early on Friday…
I hope I’m not repeating myself but this is something that needs to be addressed asap..
Post # 7
I say move the wedding date earlier..it seems to work best for everyone.
Post # 8
I want to move the date to 6-5-10 on a Friday rehearsal..
So side with me please!
Post # 9
I agree you should move the wedding date. Any way to further accomodate Out of Town guests is better (plus if I were a guest I would spend the extra money on your gift).
Post # 10
We decided not to move the date a week earlier. I really wanted to because the pastor mentioned all of the above reasons why Thursday would just not work. Also Fiance was totally against it. He wanted nothing to do with it. And he used the whole “wives submit to your husbands” thing. So I had to side with him and opt to not move the date. Phooyie he won.
Post # 11
no worries! i think everything will still be wonderful!
Post # 12
Umm…”wives submit to their husbands?” I hope that isn’t the way every argument ends!
I voted for Thursday – and remember that you don’t HAVE to invite all Out of Town guests! We’re doing our rehearsal on Thursday night so we can keep it more intimate and so that Out of Town guests don’t feel shafted by not being invited!
Also, if you’ve seen a movie with a weddng in it, you know the basics of how a wedding works 😉
Post # 13
I don’t think you need to worry about the rehearsal staying fresh in everyone’s minds. I prefer a Thursday rehearsal overall so that people can let loose if they want to and still have Friday to recover. Everytime I’ve stood up in a wedding I’ve taken Friday off anyway unless it was really problematic for me to be away from work. That said though, if it’s easy to change and there are a large number of people for whom an extra night would be a true inconvenience it would seem that changing the date would be easiest. I guess I’m on the fence!
Post # 14
We’re doing our rehearsal on Thursday night . . . but mainly because we’re getting married on a Friday.