Post # 1
As a two dress bride with a happy ending I thought I would start a post on trying to help avoid dress regret. I know it seems easy to say “stop looking” but I think the reason you keep looking is because you have dress regret.
So let’s come up with some tips that if we had followed might have helped
1. Do not buy a dress the first time you try it on. Sleep on it – wait at least 24 hours before putting down money.
2. Do you have family members or friends whose opionions matter? Get their honest opinion before you order the dress and tell them to be honest. If you truly love it and they are negative you will not care.
3. Be wary before buying a dress that is completely different than what you thought you wanted/your inspiration pictures etc. You might love the way it looks in the store at that moment but when you go back to the big picture – does it fit.
4. Try on a wide variety of dress silhouettes on a scouting trip – do not even try and look for a dress and if you do hit gold then back to rule 1.
ok help me out here in coming up with more hints or rules or tricks or whatever that will help prevent the anxiety and cost of the dreaded “Dress Regret Syndrome”
Post # 3
Consider the logistics of your day.
Are you getting married in the middle of summer, outdoors? Maybe a super heavy ballgown isn’t your best friend.
Ask the sales person to show you what the bustle will look like and what bustle options there are.
Post # 4
Once you buy your dress, don’t even THINK about trying more on, or even looking at pictures. (Kind of like getting married…once you’ve said “I do,” then don’t even *imagine* yourself with another man! 😉 )
Post # 5
Be open-minded while shopping and try on every silhouette and style, so you know exactly what everything looks like on you and you don’t get stuck in a box.
If there is a doubt in your mind about a dress, don’t buy it.
Book a venue first so that you won’t have an issue of the dress matching the wedding.
Post # 6
If you take pics in the dress SMILE, stand up straight, put on some make-up/do your hair. Its hard to remember how beautiful you felt when all you have is pics of you slumped over looking miserable.
Post # 7
I haven’t had an ounce of dress regret, and a lot of girls probably wouldn’t like to do this but I went and tried dresses on by myself. My BMs, mom, sister, etc all have different tastes, and they also have no way of knowing what I feel good in and what makes me comfortable. After I chose my dress, THEN I brought sis and mom and BMs to the bridal shop to show them.
This came after a nightmare day in which I brought mom, sis, and a Bridesmaid or Best Man with me. They all liked different things, and I felt pressure to make them all happy. Going it alone worked out great for me!
Post # 8
Once you purchase your dress, don’t buy another one until your dress comes in! As a consultant we see this a lot. Brides come in with bridemaids and see a dress they like on another bride, or even worse see their dress on a bride that it doesnt look good on, and instant dress regret sets in.
But keep in mind that there was a reason you fell in love with your first dress, and wait for it to come in all new and sparkly. It does make a difference. Or ask to try on the sample again. During the waiting game, it does get hard to remember what the dress looks like on you, and not that bride on the platform.
Post # 9
Go shopping your first time alone. That way you can figure out what style you like best without your friend’s and family’s emotions & opinions getting in the way of your own.
Post # 10
i’m a four dress bride (and that’s not counting my asian dress).
dress 1 regret: didn’t like the fact that it wasn’t silk. it’s from the lower priced line of a mid-range designer
dress 2 regreat: i loved it on other brides but hated it on me but it was so gorgeous on other brides, i had to have it. a-lines are not for me.
dress 3 regret: love the fact that it’s jim hjelm and silk and love the pockets. but didn’t do anything for my figure and didn’t have the wow factor.
dress 4: silk – check; designer – check; shape – check; wow factor – check.
the first dress i bought, i slept on it for several days and went to three shops before returning to the first shop to purchase. my problem is i like them all. wedding dress just feel amazing on.
Post # 11
I didnt have dress regret but I know that buying the dress over a year before the wedding can play a role, so my advice would be to not buy it too early. 12 months to my wedding I thought I knew the perfect dress for me but at the 9 month mark I fell in love with a different style, I then waited a month before purchasing because I really wanted to think it over so I didnt order the dress until I was 8 months out and it worked out great that I paced myself.
Post # 12
I see this one in a lot of dress regret cases: book your venue first, THEN buy your dress! Its really exciting to buy your dress, but you don’t want to buy a formal ballgown and then realize you want a beach wedding!
Post # 13
If you are known for being cheap frugal, please please please don’t let yourself be talked into a dress (by family, friends, or YOURSELF) simply because it is a great deal. I always said if I found a “pretty good” dress for a great price (like David’s $99 sale) that I’d be happy to settle.
Wrong. I found a dress at David’s that was being discontinued marked down to $150. I went in looking for a non-strapless dress… didn’t even try any strapless ones on. This one happened to be a halter. Also, while trying this dress on was the first time I saw myself in a veil. My eyes grew big for a second from the ‘bridal effect’. My sister instantly proclaimed it was the one for me! And look at that price!
But no, I had a couple issues/concerns about the fit of the dress but ignored them. 4 months later I went back to look alone and found a reasonably priced (but not dirt cheap) strapless dress that I fell in love with.
Post # 14
@LGenz: This!!! That’s exactly what happened to me. It wasn’t so much that I didn’t love the dress after I bought it, it’s more that I took a horrible picture in it and compared to all the beautiful photos of brides done up on their wedding day, I mistakenly thought the dress looked horrible on me. Actually, I just looked horrible in the photo, and the dress was perfectly fine.
If all you have to remember your dress after you order it is a bad photo, little things like bad lighting, a bad hair day, or no makeup can make you second guess the way you felt when you ordered it.
Post # 15
@ItsPronounced_ABear: I just wanted to say that we have the same dress! I just ordered mine on Saturday and they told me it’s being discontinued so it was marked way down. I bought it in the plus size, though, so maybe that’s why. It looks great on you and it’s so fun to wear!
Post # 16
@KYbride86: Awesome! Yeah, since the wedding I have occasionally stalked the dress online.. until one day it was marked down on the website, then disappeared entirely. What are the chances I would buy 2 discontinued dresses? lol.