- 11 years ago
I guess everyone is here for the same reason, because we’re having a problem staying patient while waiting for something to happen that seems entirely out of our control. Whether it’s been 9 months or 9 years…hard is hard, ya know?
I read somewhere, and I wish I could remember who said it, something that really stuck with me and while I struggle with waiting it helps to remember this:
TYPICALLY The wedding is the bride’s show, she gets to plan, share with others, gets the praise when it goes right, gets to vent with everyone when she struggles with planning, is open to advice to make everything perfect and does this all without someone nagging her to do it, do it right, do it quicker…and without questioning every motivation…etc.
TYPICALLY the engagement proposal is the groom-to-be’s show. He has to do it silently and secretively. He still wants it to be perfect, but because he’s a man he doesn’t ask for help, doesn’t get advice, doesn’t vent his frustrations. Add to this the feeling of knowing your bride is waiting (and sometimes not ever-so-patiently), is frustrated, annoyed, doesn’t understand you…etc and that’s a lot to handle.
I’m going to try to be more patient and understanding and SILENT with my man, because I sometimes forget what he might be struggling with.