(Closed) Best way to ask someone in another state to be your bridesmaid?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I asked via text, then gave a necklace and heartfelt card when I saw them 2 months later. You can call and ask, then mail a gift

Post # 3
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Helper bee

Are these people close to you? If so it should be a breeze. I asked 2 of mine that live in New York, (im in maryland). I called them and just asked, didnt think anything of it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

oh well that sounds really fun!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just call them up— don’t do a group text because those get so freakin’ annoying after the first 3 minutes. Someone’s phone might blow up with 100 texts at an inconvenient time.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2016

3 of my bridesmaids are in different states and I wanted to do something special too! I really wanted to get a singing telegram for my Maid/Matron of Honor but she lives in a small town and I couldnt find anyone that did it ๐Ÿ™ I then tried to set up a treasure hunt around her town and got her friends in on it but someone ruined the surprise, sooo I ended up caling her ๐Ÿ™‚

For my other maids of honor I ordered them Pizza and had the pizza place use Olives/green peppers to Write “B Maid?” and then I had the people at the pizza place write on the inside of the box asking her to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man. I made sure to schedule a skype call with her so that I knew she would be home during delivery time and I could watch it go down.

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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ummm I just asked them over the phone? I had two out of state bridesmaids. I guess I’m just not that craft.

That being said, two of my bridesmaids recently got married and both sent out custom cards to ask up to be their bridesmaids.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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oliviasagan:  A bride in NYC hired me to ask her best friend in Chicago to be her bridesmaid via an in person serenade of the recipients favorite song (it was a song the two friends used to sing when they went out in college and got tipsy)!!!! The bride also sent me a small gift to give her. She got all teary eyed and laughing at the same time!

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I love the “Be My Maid?” boxes on Pinterest. I am pretty sure I will do something along the lines of this and just mail it to them. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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oliviasagan:  all of my BMs were out of town/state. I opted to call and ask. I felt it was more personal than a text and I think they all knew it was coming. Then after the last phone call I got some little bracelets and mailed them out to each girl with a little hand-drawn card thanking them for agreeing to be part of my wedding etc. 

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