Post # 1
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Newbee
I have four sisters who all live in different places. My little sister lives in Hawaii and already knows she’s my Maid/Matron of Honor, and originally I only planned to have her in the wedding when we were planning a very small affair. As the number of invited guests grows, I thought it would be fun to include my other sisters in the wedding as well because I know they’ll be with me the week before the wedding anyway and are already helping me to plan and I would love to make them feel included. Not to mention it will make the photos on the day look so much cuter if we’re all in coordinating colors!
Two sisters live in different parts of Colorado, one is in Oklahoma, and my Maid/Matron of Honor is in Hawaii. I was thinking of calling them, sending them a small care package, doing something special when I see them in August for a different wedding, or maybe sending a group text (we are big on group-texting) to say “Will you be my bridesmaid?”. I think the best option would be to ask in person, but I know I’ll let it spill before I see them!
I’m big on DIY/crafts and love the idea of doing something special, but I’m also ready to just give them a call to ask them to be my bridesmaids. Anyone with out of state bridesmaids have any great ideas?
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I asked via text, then gave a necklace and heartfelt card when I saw them 2 months later. You can call and ask, then mail a gift
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Are these people close to you? If so it should be a breeze. I asked 2 of mine that live in New York, (im in maryland). I called them and just asked, didnt think anything of it.
Post # 4
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Newbee
MistyGray187: Yup, I’m really close with all of them. I just thought it might be fun to do something a little more special–I DIY everything so I’m always looking for unique ways of doing things. 🙂
Post # 5
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Helper bee
oh well that sounds really fun!! 🙂
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
Just call them up— don’t do a group text because those get so freakin’ annoying after the first 3 minutes. Someone’s phone might blow up with 100 texts at an inconvenient time.
Post # 7
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Newbee
3 of my bridesmaids are in different states and I wanted to do something special too! I really wanted to get a singing telegram for my Maid/Matron of Honor but she lives in a small town and I couldnt find anyone that did it 🙁 I then tried to set up a treasure hunt around her town and got her friends in on it but someone ruined the surprise, sooo I ended up caling her 🙂
For my other maids of honor I ordered them Pizza and had the pizza place use Olives/green peppers to Write “B Maid?” and then I had the people at the pizza place write on the inside of the box asking her to be my Bridesmaid or Best Man. I made sure to schedule a skype call with her so that I knew she would be home during delivery time and I could watch it go down.
Post # 8
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Horseradish: Haha. My whole family (bridesmaids included) has a group text that has been going on for over a year. Luckily iPhones have a “do not disturb” option now… I’m usually the one who uses it because I’m 4-6 hours ahead of everyone and asleep while they’re still chatting!
kzaro: Aah! I love the pizza/Skype idea! So cute!
Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
Ummm I just asked them over the phone? I had two out of state bridesmaids. I guess I’m just not that craft.
That being said, two of my bridesmaids recently got married and both sent out custom cards to ask up to be their bridesmaids.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
oliviasagan: A bride in NYC hired me to ask her best friend in Chicago to be her bridesmaid via an in person serenade of the recipients favorite song (it was a song the two friends used to sing when they went out in college and got tipsy)!!!! The bride also sent me a small gift to give her. She got all teary eyed and laughing at the same time!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
I love the “Be My Maid?” boxes on Pinterest. I am pretty sure I will do something along the lines of this and just mail it to them. 🙂
Post # 12
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Bumble bee
oliviasagan: all of my BMs were out of town/state. I opted to call and ask. I felt it was more personal than a text and I think they all knew it was coming. Then after the last phone call I got some little bracelets and mailed them out to each girl with a little hand-drawn card thanking them for agreeing to be part of my wedding etc.