Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
My centerpieces are probably the diy project I’m in love with most, they will be terrariums of succulents with a different set of vintage salt and pepper shakers for each table. I plan to re-plant the succulents in our home afterwards, and keep the salt and pepper shakers as part of a collection. So imagine my surprise when my mom said that guests will probably take them home, and even my Maid/Matron of Honor said that she would definitely be taking one at the end of the night!
I looked through older WB threads about the matter, and it’s kind of split 50/50, it’s just common practice for some peoples’ families/cultures to take the centerpieces at the end of the night, and some people sounded appalled that guests would assume they have the right to take them.
So please help me out hive; what’s the best way to keep my guests from taking my centerpieces?? Feel free to elaborate on your pick(s). Please don’t tell me I should just bear with it and let them, or to change my idea. I have already invested a lot of love into them!!
Post # 3
Um, wow I have never seen anyone just take a centerpiece. My cousin gave hers away at the end of the night, but no one has ever just grabbed it and walked away.
I would not have the DJ make an announcement – it would seem really bizarre to me to hear anyone announce basically “Please don’t steal the decor.” Do you have a coordinator who you can ask to watch and make sure they stay put?
Post # 4
I’ve never seen anyone take a centerpiece without asking.
I don’t like the announcement idea either. Seems rude.
“hey, don’t even think about taking these centerpieces home!”
Post # 5
I like the idea of a little note on it which states please dont take me.
Post # 6
I have heard two schools of thought on this. I’ve organized corporate events and I was shocked that people take the centerpieces without being prompted to do so. So I get where your Maid/Matron of Honor is coming from. However, according to my florist, she has never had a single wedding where people stole the centerpieces. In any event, my florist said that usually the coordinator or the coordinator’s assistant or someone will keep an eye out on the centerpieces for you. We have venue coordinators and our own so they will be watching out for our centerpieces (although we have tall ones that are kind of hard to reach and haul off). Is it common at weddings you’ve attended for people to take them?
Post # 7
The only thing guests will be able to take home from the decor are the flowers and votives. The actual glasses that hold the flowers belong to my florist. I plan to have the dj make some sort of announcement like “please feel free to take a votive and flower arrangement home but leave the glasses behind.” Or something like that. I dont think people will take the glasses but I anticipate fi’s family asking if they can take the flowers home. in that case, I won’t need an announcement.
Post # 8
You could make a sign on the centerpieces that say “Property of the Bride and Groom”.
Post # 9
I have seen people snagging cetnerpieces before, for sure. I would just tell people to look out for that and correct the people trying to steal them. At one wedding I went to the Maid/Matron of Honor just went crazy on everyone who even so much as touched a centerpiece.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
We do have a coordinator, but I don’t believe he will be hanging around the entire night, I think I’d have to assign a guest. I know the DJ thing sounds so rude, but I read that that’s a method other people used!
And I never even thought of people just taking centerpieces either, but upon reflection I did recall my mom taking some flowers straight out of a vase to take home, which all of her friends at that wedding did as well T_T
Post # 11
Guests shouldn’t take them without being prompted to, but you can always have one person keep an eye out!
Post # 12
Normally I have only seen guests take centerpieces when they were given permission. So make sure the family and the bridal party knows that no, people are not to take centerpieces home with them. That should be good enough. Especially make sure that grabby Maid/Matron of Honor knows! LOL
Post # 13
I’m not sure, maybe on each table write a little ‘story’ about how you are going to plant them at your house and watch them grow with your love or something like that. I think that if guests knew what you were going to do with them, they wouldn’t take them home.
Post # 14
For the succulents, you could just add a notecard or two per table or a little flag in the pot that says “Elysion and Mr Elyson will be planting me in their front yard, won’t you please come visit me there?” which has a nice, non-negative tone but still gets your point across. You could also consider buying a few empty terrariums or pots or favors that look like the terrariums, whatever, so that you can steer people towards taking those.
Salt and Peppers will be a bit harder because guests can connect with the idea of not stealing someone’s garden, but may have a harder time grasping why anyone would want/need a couple dozen salt and pepper’s running around the house. So I’d try to play up the “I’ve already got some plan in store for these” and add it to the note.
I think this has to be written, not word-of-mouth, not announced by the DJ, because written is the only way I can figure out to make it not sound a bit tacky. If the DJ at a wedding I was at came over the PA and said “the bride and groom have asked guests not to take the centerpeices” I would really find it off-putting. Even if I had been planning to do just that! I’d be like, what do they think I am, a crook? And you don’t want to turn any of your guests into the tabletop-nazi’s.
Another alternative would be to request the catering/waitstaff to clear the centerpeices when they clear dinner dishes, but you’d probably want them to replace the centerpeices with *something*— perhaps if you’re doing a proper coffee service after dinner, the centerpeices come off and the creamers and sugars get arranged nicely in their place.
Post # 15
That is just strange. I would never ever help myself to a centerpiece….weirdos!!
Post # 16
People took mine even though they weren’t supposed to. We had 42 centerpieces with handmade vases, I think we ended up with at most 10? I thought that was crazy I would never think of taking centerpieces!!