(Closed) Best Way to RSVP No as a Guest

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would add a little note, maybe on the back of the rsvp card, just explaining how you really want to be there and it’s solely a scheduling issue. I would really appreciate a personal note.

Post # 4
Member
435 posts
Helper bee

I think it might be better to let her know right away that you have something else planned.  I’d send a gift from the registry with a card telling her that you would like to come but have the other wedding on the same weekend.  I’m sure she’ll understand.  

Post # 5
Member
2054 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think that if you see her on a daily basis after you get the invitation you should just talk to her…and send in the rsvp and get a gift from the registry…I think that will cover all bases and Im sure see will understand about one of your BMs wedding.

Post # 6
Member
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Your reasons are completely understandable, so if you see her everyday, I would just mention how sad you are to miss her wedding, but that one of your bridesmaids is getting married the same weekend. 

Has she mentioned when her wedding was to you before?  I would tell her right away, and just be like… shoot I was really hoping to get to come, but it looks like I’m double booked 🙁

Post # 7
Member
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

RSVP no and include a note saying you will be out of town (no need to say itll be at another wedding) and a wish of luck and you’ll be fine.  She’ll appreciate the well wishes.

Post # 8
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

A note is always appreciated so you coworker doesn’t have to wonder why you can’t be there.

Post # 9
Member
4485 posts
Honey bee

Check no on the reply card and return it to them. No explanation is needed.

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