Post # 1
So I have to RSVP No to a wedding. I got the invite yesterday from my mentor at work. I really like and respect her, but we aren’t friends outside of work. One of my BMs is getting married that same weekend back in the midwest in the town that Fiance and I went to college, so we are thrilled to go back.
Basically, I want to say no in the best possible way. My instinct is to wait a few weeks (April 1 RSVP deadline) until I get my BM’s invitation to be absolutely sure, send a gift from the registry, and put the RSVP in the mail.
Any thoughts? Better suggestions? Thanks!
Post # 3
I would add a little note, maybe on the back of the rsvp card, just explaining how you really want to be there and it’s solely a scheduling issue. I would really appreciate a personal note.
Post # 4
I think it might be better to let her know right away that you have something else planned. I’d send a gift from the registry with a card telling her that you would like to come but have the other wedding on the same weekend. I’m sure she’ll understand.
Post # 5
I think that if you see her on a daily basis after you get the invitation you should just talk to her…and send in the rsvp and get a gift from the registry…I think that will cover all bases and Im sure see will understand about one of your BMs wedding.
Post # 6
Your reasons are completely understandable, so if you see her everyday, I would just mention how sad you are to miss her wedding, but that one of your bridesmaids is getting married the same weekend.
Has she mentioned when her wedding was to you before? I would tell her right away, and just be like… shoot I was really hoping to get to come, but it looks like I’m double booked 🙁
Post # 7
RSVP no and include a note saying you will be out of town (no need to say itll be at another wedding) and a wish of luck and you’ll be fine. She’ll appreciate the well wishes.
Post # 8
A note is always appreciated so you coworker doesn’t have to wonder why you can’t be there.
Post # 9
Check no on the reply card and return it to them. No explanation is needed.