Post # 1
I haven’t gotten a ton of advice, but my favorites so far have been:
1. If you find “the one” dress, don’t buy it. Walk away from it, try on other dresses if you want, and if you still love it a week later, go buy it.
2. Start a separate wedding email address and do all wedding-related correspondence through there. Make it Gmail & utilize all the Google Docs. My wedding lives in google. I use all of it!
Post # 3
1. Enjoy being engaged
2. dont have too many people in your bridal party lol
Post # 4
savor every minute of it!
don’t sweat the small stuff
have the wedding of your dreams but do it within your financial means!
make sure your wedding party can commit and are dependable (if possible)
have fun… it comes and goes so quickly
Post # 5
- Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace
Don’t let the stress of that week of and day of take away from the fun! Roll with the punches and enjoy every second. Never thought I could pull that one off, but I did just let go and had the most incredible weekend of my life.
Post # 6
Don’t try to do everything!!! Set a deadline and start NO new projects after that date.
Post # 7
Remember that nobody really cares about your wedding except YOU!
It really has kept me humble and helps me to remember that guest enjoyment is really important to me.
Post # 8
NOT to share wedding details with everyone. All the time people ask, what’s your dress like? What are the colors? What’s the menu? Find a good way to politely avoid answering their questions…once you share details with people, you have to be prepared for them to give you their opinion (which you probably don’t want, but will take into consideration nonetheless). It causes a lot of second guessing of youself and takes the fun out of planning.
Plan your wedding for you two, not for anyone else.
Post # 9
@ Future Mrs. Martin – No one has told me that, but that’s something I remind myself of it I get a little worked up about things. That and, “would it ruin the wedding and I didn’t have **this**?” Usually the answer is “no” and I let it go.
Post # 10
My best advise was “Dont waste all that money on the wedding, save it up and have the BEST honeymoon ever.” OR ” You will never impress anyone people will still talk crap about your wedding, so do what you can afford and ignore what others think”
I have been living with those thoughts in mind and they help me plan my wedding just the way I want it to be.. simple but elegant.
Post # 11
@virginia marie- that is a REALLY good tip!! I recently showed my cousin a picture of the dress that I am love with and she said she thought it would look bad on me…I got so upset, but I really shouldnt have. after all, its not her wedding. She had her turn ! lol
Post # 12
Ms. Marting has it right… NO ONE cares about your wedding but you. So don’t get upset when your bridesmaids are not offering to help. They have things to do too. If you want something done delegate. It was the best piece of advice that I learned early on… thanks to the bee.
Also don’t wish your life away. Enjoy being engaged, then enjoy being a newly wed, and so on. Enjoy where you are now and don’t wish that you were somewhere else.
Post # 13
oh and beware – there will always be at least 1 person that will complain about something. this is your special day… enjoy it!
Post # 14
Stay organized and edit, edit, edit!
Post # 15
I agree with the “nobody cares as much about your wedding as you do”. Also:
Number your reply cards!!!
And of course, for me I have to learn to stop micromanaging ever little detail. Hire good vendors you can trust, and then back off and let them do their jobs!