(Closed) Best “Wifely” advice you ever got?

posted 12 years ago in Married Life
Post # 61
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

The best advice I have ever got is “pick your battles”, “never stop saying thank you” i.e. never take each other for granted but one of my favorite ones is:

never moan about your SO to your mother, if you need to moan do it to his mother as she will always love and forgive him, your mother on the other hand will forever look at him differently for upsetting her little girl.

Post # 62
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

If one of you gets home before the other and isn’t doing something that just CANNOT be left for a second, greet your partner at the door. It really signals to them that you are glad to see them and that they are more important than whatever you were doing. 

 

Embarrassingly a woman on the Bachelor who had been divorced said that she wished she had done this, but t’s so simple and so effective that it’s source doesn’t really matter.

Post # 63
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Blushing bee

From my grandmother: If it won’t matter in 5 years it isn’t important enough to fight about.

Post # 64
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have only been married for a little over a month. One thing I took it to the heart from a guy is never stop being pretty even if you are married and your guy said he dun care.. it matters to men. Before getting married, I’m lazy and busy with school + work…so I hardly dress up. Now that we are married, we see each other everyday (well, we did see each other everyday before married but not 24/7)… 

 

I make sure I am at least presentable when I go out with him. Especially I remember once that my hubby told me reason why all the girls didn’t work out (the girls that his buddy try to hook him up) because he like girly girl, not sporty girl…

 

 

Post # 65
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I love the housework advice. I am going to use that one for sure. 

I have learned to always show appreciation to my husband. I try to say thank you for everything that he does for me or for us. I am not a person who needs constant praise, but I have learned that he needs it to feel appreciated. 

It has seem to reduce some of our arguements, but that just may be us. 

I was once told if I do everything to make him happy, and he does everything to make me happy then our marriage will be just fine. 

 

Post # 66
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114 posts
Blushing bee

I am blissfully happy in my relationship… And we have been together a lonnnnggggg time. All my friends wonder why and I tell them… Surprise each other with little treats often… Speak positive words to each other and about each other… Have sex ..a lot ! Even when I can’t be bothered if Fiance is keen I get amongst it …. I spend time every single day thinking what is one nice thing i could do for Fiance today..  It could be a foot rub… Making a hot choclate after dinner… little things make a big difference… My Fiance does the same and I feel so happy everyday with the lovely words he speaks to me and the little things he does… Like putting my gym clothes in the wash… Getting my Pjs toasting by the fire small things !

Post # 67
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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KD2009:  TBH this only really works in your man’s favor. They just get fixated on the “boobies” and the argument is only delayed.

Post # 68
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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RhianfaHW:  I would second this. Keep having fun together. We also occasionally end up having a shaving cream war 🙂 He sprayed me, I wiped it off and shoved it up his nose and then he doused me, the rug, the wall, and the toilet paper. HAHAHAHAHA

Post # 69
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Pray together, have sex often and happily, think about the good that your partner brings into your life, don’t complain about your partner to family members, let your spouse catch you checking them out regularly!

Post # 70
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Bumble bee

Great advice about leaving out evidence of housework!!  My DH definitely does not think the house runs itself.  But it makes him feel special and taken care of when I do house stuff.  When he notices he’s so grateful and complimentary.  So, this advice helps us to both get a little bit of good feels 🙂

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Post # 72
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

I was in the car with my parets a few years ago. My dad farted. My mom sat there unaffected. I was like, ughhhhh grosss. Mom, how do you deal with that?  She said, thats what men do, dear.

Swear to god, i still laugh about it.

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Best advice came from my grandmother. 

A cook in the kitchen

A lady in public

Never give a man a reason to cheat.  My take was you should always be considerate of his needs sexually.  I couldn’t have said it better than pp PeachyMama

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PeachyMama:  Totally agree

Post # 74
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m laughing as I’m scrolling through and reading all of these advice. They’re really great! Some I do already and some I probably should.  Commenting to follow. Unfortunately, no advice comes to mind right now for me to share.  Most of my marriage advice came from my mom who is a really old-fashion Asian lady and some of you would probably gawk at the things she said to me, lol!

Post # 75
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Helper bee

I’ve loved reading through all of these! 

Some advice my dad gave me was: “Stop listening to other people’s advice” (HAH – ironic!). He just meant that a lot of people’s worries stem from what other people say about their relationship, or from what other people think you “should” do. Do what makes the two of you happy.

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