Post # 16
The best bridesmaid gift I ever got was an out of print book I’d been trying to find for years. It had nothing at all to do with love, weddings or the event in general – it was just something I’d been wanting for ages. All of the gifts were like that. The couple didn’t worry about keeping things uniform or about spending the same amount per person; they just got each member of the party something they knew we would love.
We were thrilled.
Post # 17
I think the pocketknifes are a good idea if you think they’ll ever use them, otherwise perhaps an engraved (if you still want this) kitchen knife?
Chocolate is alwyas a good idea! you can always make a little basket and include a nicer tea or coffee as well or whatever else they like? Dont buy the necklace (much less matching ones) unless they are the kind of people that usually wears them.
I’ve been thinking about this as well, for now i have paid for the dresses, hair and makeup is on me as well. I’ve bought matching black robes (no engraving of any sort), the cutest pearl hair pins – but these are more for the wedding day so I would not call them gifts, but I am trying to put together a little box of goodies; mayb chocolates, lotions, face masks and other beauty products so they feel pampered. I am trying to adjust them for each person.
This shit is hard haha
Post # 18
I saw some people saying no one uses pocket knives… that’s not true. You know your crowd and if that’s something the guys like go for it! My fiancé and his grooms men’s are all in trades, emergency services or hunt and ALL carry pocket knives so we’ve considered getting them some sort of nice tool too!
personally, I wouldn’t want a locket. What I’m doing is getting each of the girls a piece of jewelry I think they’d like. My Maid/Matron of Honor is getting a Tiffany bracelet. Another girl is getting a pandora charm(she wears her pandora bracelet all the time), another is getting a fossil watch. Like I’m tailoring it to their exact styles and preference.
Post # 19
If the groomsmen would actually USE the pocket knives or keep it in their pocket for that “nice” pocket knife then go for it. I’m sure you know your groomsmen best and know they would use them if you are buying them. Honestly, our groomsmen would have liked them as well. My husband always carries one but again, not every man does.
Best gift – stemless wine glass with my name on it and the day-of jewelry. I haven’t been a bridesmaid much, but I use that wine glass a lot and I appreciate the fact that it is a legit glass I can keep in my nice cabinet of glasses.
Worst gift – I really have had any. I mentioned day-of jewlery and I guess it could also be my worst gift because it wasn’t my personal style? Nor did I ever wear it again.
What I did, and what some of our friends “copied” so to speak that has come to be useful: customized Yeti cups for my bridesmaids that were engraved with their monogram. To this day 2 years later, my girls still say they use theirs and love it (they came with lids too). I also got them earrings to wear the day of. DH got his groomsmen personalized leather flasks.
SIL and future Brother-In-Law got their groomsmen socks… but they match the wedding theme and it was their “proposal”gift. It had a cute message about “standing next to the groom on the big day” I thought it was super nice and practical. Plus, DH has a nice pair of new dress socks!
Post # 20
I was Maid/Matron of Honor for my sister’s wedding 10 years ago, and she gave large Coach make-up bags. I still use it to this day, and it is my go-to for travel!
The worst- anything impractical, cheesy with dates. Total waste of money.
I definately like the idea of the dress being a gift! Also like gift cards or a spa day! Even a gel mani would be awesome!
Post # 21
I definitely agree with all the posters who said that you should consider each girl’s tastes and interests individually. I personally am not a spa girl and never do my nails; though I know I am probably in the minority. I have been a bridesmaid four times and the first three times I got a watch that was not to my taste, a pashmina, and a small Coach wristlet, none of which I have ever used again. The last time the bride was my sister and she gave me a Mason Pearson brush, which I had wanted but would have never splurged on for myself, which is the best kind of gift! I had a winter wedding and I gave my bridesmaids each a pair of Uggs, in different colours (not to wear in the wedding or photos), which I knew they all would all love.
Post # 22
I have been in several weddings as a bridesmaid and honestly can’t remember any of the gifts I’ve been given so I gues they weren’t super memorable.
I just had to think hard about what I got my bridesmaids…. I got each of them a Coach wristlet and a mini rollerball/purse spray of their favorite perfume. I also paid for their hair and makeup the day of as I hated having to pay for this myself as a bridesmaid.
I have no idea what my husband got his groomsmen (I think I have a terrible memory….). I know he got a knockoff Apple watch as a groomsman in his best friends wedding and he has literally never worn it.
I think the chocolate idea is great! The locket, only if you know they will definitely wear it. I would not wear it.
Post # 23
I got my bridesmaids each a bottle of their favorite type of wine and a $100 gift certificate to their favorite restaurant. They seemed to enjoy it. Better than getting earrings or jewelry to wear on that day and then maybe never again. I wanted to get them something I knew for sure they’d like and use.
Post # 24
Thank you everyone for your responses! I think we’re sticking to the pocket knives since it’s something that two of the groomsmen collect and are used a lot all around.
I think I’ll take your suggestions and skip the locket, maybe add a nice candle, and pay to get their hair done instead. I would love to get them a spa certificate, but they all live in very different areas so that would probably be a bit tricky. Still good to hear all of your experiences!
Post # 25
Middle-aged bee, here. While I’m not quite in 27 Dresses territory, I have been a bridesmaid and a Maid/Matron of Honor many, many times over the past 20-something years. And have received a range of gifts, ranging from incredible to “what on earth is this?”.
The gifts that have meant the most, that I still have/use/wear, that I treasure.. are the ones that were chosen for me as an individual and were based off my taste, style, hobbies, interests. A nice bottle of wine; a rare bottle of whisky; gift card for a store that sells supplies for a hobby of mine; first edition autographed copy of a favorite book; a pair of cashmere socks in my favorite color.
The gifts that almost immediately got recycled, regifted, or donated… were the ones where all the BMs received an identical gift that was not relevant to my taste, style, hobbies, or interests or where the gift was actually a prop for the wedding. This would be things like a single wineglass engraved with the word “bridesmaid”; multiple ‘getting-ready’ robes that didn’t even fit properly; “bride tribe” t-shirts; matching costume jewelry meant to be worn at the wedding; matching clutch bags filled with ‘bridesmaid survival’ supplies like random nail polish, tampons, advil, bobby pins.
Post # 26
I actually wouldn’t mind the pocket knife myself as a bridesmaid since I always keep a swiss army knife in my purse lol. Just don’t forget to tape a penny to it!
Post # 27
Our crowd would’ve definitely appreciated the pocket knives! We got the men personalized Yeti tumblers & paid for their custom suits.
I was kind of scrambling for the girls in the end & wish I had done yeti wine tumblers. They got individual necklaces from a local silversmith, handmade artisan soap, & a handmade ring dish along with $200 towards their dress, a fleece robe & HMU paid for. My man of honor got the Yeti & a handmade money clip along with his suit.
Post # 28
- Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress
Worst was definitely two bejeweled sashes–one to wear with the bridesmaids dress and one “you can wear after the wedding”. Um with what exactly?
Best was probably the monogrammed getting ready zip up hoodie. I wear it over my gym clothes on cold or rainy days and it’s perfect!
Post # 29
Oh no! The bejeweled sash sounds awful! 😂
Post # 30
For our wedding, we did personalized Rtic tumblers for everyone, he got his groomsmen nice bottles of liquor and I got my bridesmaids glassybaby votive holders and gift cards to get their hair done. In the weddings I was in, I have gotten jewelry to wear at the wedding or the shoes or something. I actually used the clutch my sister in law got us all for her wedding for mine because it was silver satin. I have also gotten little jewelry boxes etc but nothing super memorable.