(Closed) Bestfriend wearing white

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1425 posts
Bumble bee

Wow! I would be having none of that!  You’re absolutely not being conceited by wanting to be the only one in white!  I’d try to explain that you would like to be the only one in white that day, seeing as you’re the bride and its your and your FI’s big day.  Ask him how he thinks wearing white will “blend in” when the rest of the bridal party will NOT be wearing white and you two can figure out a way for him to subtly stand out as the “Friend of Honor”.

Post # 4
2638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2006

I would tell him: “I don’t want to be conceited, but we are having a small wedding, and I would like to be the only one in white.”

I think being direct is your best option.

Post # 5
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Haha, blend in with what? I think you should explain that you are the bride and would like to be the only one in white. After all, you’re very close with him so I’m sure he’d understand and be a considerate friend. On a different note, my father wore a white tux to his wedding in 1984 and it was NOT a good look then and probably isn’t a good look now! Lol

Post # 6
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

He sounds a little ridiculous. It’s your wedding, so on that day, unfortunately for him, you’re the only one that gets to be high maintenance. I would tell him what he’s wearing and if he’s not okay with it, tell him he can come as a guest instead of being in the wedding party.

Post # 7
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

It’s your wedding day, you are allowed to tell him no – BUT (I can’t resist saying this) he certaintly won’t be mistaken for the bride…. he’s a man, not a woman wearing white….

Post # 8
981 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

As he is in the bridal party, you DO get the right to dictate what he wears. He sounds like he must have a strong personality (it takes one to wear a white tux), but if he is your BFF he should concede. It is your special day, and remind him that on his wedding day you will wear whatever he wants.

Post # 9
4193 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

He’s not going to blend in, he’s going to stand out. Not cool. Show him these responses if you need to- the bride should be the only one in white. End of story. 🙂

Post # 10
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

He should really understand that it’s your wedding and that you should be the only one wearing white…I would just explain it to him this way…I’m sure he’ll understand!

Post # 11
1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Just like everyone else has said…you’re not being rude or conceited to tell him you want to be wearing white, you’re the bride…nobody else should be wearing white, especially if they are standing nex to you! That will make him look like an attention-whore

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