Post # 1
So long story short my sister is my best friend and we hang out with each other more than anyone else. (im 23 shes 25) I got engaged and within 3 weeks she was all of a sudden not talking to me and wouldnt return my calls, emails, facebook messages or texts. Finally she said she didnt want to get together with me because I dont like kid stuff ( she has 2 kids one 4 one 6 months who i love dearly and would do anything for!). I find this statement not true at all, I have spend countless times at the park with her and and doing crafts and sitting at home feeding or waiting for kids to wake up from naps. I was supportive when she brought her 3 month old baby with us to look at e-rings for the first time. (my boyfriend asked me to pick some out that i liked for him to see when he went in) To be honest I kinda feel like all we do is kid stuff.
So all she said on the matter is no you dont like kid stuff and now refuses to further talk to me about it or answer my calls texts or emails. I love her and I just cant belive she is just cutting me from her familys lifes. (its been over 3 weeks since she even told me the kid thing) It feels like a terrible breakup that i didnt see coming 🙁
So now I cry all the time because It feels like I lost my sister and my best friend. I dont have many friends and she was my one true person I could say anything to and we actually spent time together regularly. I feel like she has some type of underlying problem or issue and either cant/wont say it. My step sister thinks its misdirected anger about wanting my life (she has 2 beautiful babies but thats about it and I own my home and me and SO have a nice car and are getting married) How do I salvage this relationship? I need support my SO is working late and im just overwhelmed with sadness.
Post # 3
Ha you tried to talk to her maybe invote her for a sit down? My younger sister was the same way only she didnt have kids it just turned out she was jealous she did not get the wedding she wanted and I am. She is also mad that i have a son ( he came by surprise last year) and her and her husband have been trying to have a baby for awhile. She would not talk to me, email me, call me, or text. It took my dad talking to her to get her to meet me. I wanted her to be my Matron of Honor she is now over the moon excited. Give it time still let her know you care and want to still do kids things. She will come around siters are sisters.
Post # 4
@FutureMrsRoos: What do you think triggered it? Think back maybe you said somethingwith out even realizing it. If this happened with one of my sisters I would say, “Hey, did I say something for you to think that way? Because if I did I didn’t do it on purpose. You can tell me, I’m so sorry if I did. I love my nephews! And I love spendidng time with them. Let’s talk about this, yeah?”
Post # 5
She’s envious because your life is more “successful” than hers. Give her time, be the “bigger person.” She probably has very low self-esteem right now which is why she’s acting like a jerk. You should not put up with her being rude to you, but do give her some time to get her self-pity out of her system, and don’t take it too personally. She should come around after some time, hopefully apologize for her terrible behavior, and you’ll be as close as before. The key is going to be time, and you staying calm and patient with her “tantrum” until it passes. Try to concentrate on other things while you wait. Such as your upcoming wedding!
Post # 6
Is she married or engaged, or even with the father of these kids?
You getting engaged could be a huge jealousy point for her and she may feel low about not being married herself.
Post # 7
The only thing that I could possibly think of that might have triggered was the weekend before this kinda happened I got the flu and we didnt end up hanging out that day but It didnt seem like that would ruin our relationship…
She is with her babydaddy but he cheats on her and makes a minimum wage dead end job and wont amount to anything basically
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
=( I would ask her if there’s something going on in her life that’s bothering her. You’re probably not the issue here.